NT scan yesterday (& going public dilemma)

BlueEyedDreamer

I had my NT scan with my OB yesterday, and it went really well! Nuchal fold is 0.46, so very low risk. The baby looks great - was moving around and squirming throughout the u/s - so cool. Doctor said you couldn't ask for a more perfect-looking kid. When we asked if it was okay to start telling people about the pregnancy, he said that after those results, we have a 98% chance of having a full-term baby and that he sees no problem at all starting to spread the news.

So why don't I feel better? Or less anxious? .... Ugghhh.... 

We have a family wedding this weekend, and some of my cousins/aunts I saw at a bridal shower last weekend already pretty much know I'm pg just because I wasn't drinking and am hugely bloated. They're all asking my mom when I'm going to announce. I think we're going to tell that side of the family this week (before the wedding), but I just feel paralyzed with anxiety. WTF is wrong with me?! I just wish I could let go and start enjoying the fun part...

hootie123

I had a ton of anxiety about telling people - but now that it's over and we did it I feel so much better. 

Congrats on the great NT scan too! 

PurpleIris30

So glad that your NT scan went well!  I also had a lot of anxiety about telling people (like sobbing as I was telling a good friend at 12 weeks and she though something was terribly wrong), so we just waited on telling people until I felt more comfortable and could actually enjoy it. So I'd say don't force yourself to tell people before you are emotionally ready.

BlueEyedDreamer

PurpleIris30 said:

So glad that your NT scan went well!  I also had a lot of anxiety about telling people (like sobbing as I was telling a good friend at 12 weeks and she though something was terribly wrong), so we just waited on telling people until I felt more comfortable and could actually enjoy it. So I'd say don't force yourself to tell people before you are emotionally ready.

I think you hit the nail on the head here. I think the main reason why I'm feeling so anxious is because this wedding and my nosy relatives are pushing me into going public before I'm emotionally ready. 

I'm just not sure what to do because they already know, they are very nosy and are likely to ask me at the wedding if I don't announce beforehand, and I don't want it to come out AT the wedding because I feel like this would be rude to the couple getting married (my cousin). I just feel like I'm backed into a corner here....

AustinAg03

Great news on the NT scan!  I don't have any advice, but I hope the wedding goes OK with those nosy family members.  That would be very stressful!

PurpleIris30

BlueEyedDreamer said:

PurpleIris30 said:

So glad that your NT scan went well!  I also had a lot of anxiety about telling people (like sobbing as I was telling a good friend at 12 weeks and she though something was terribly wrong), so we just waited on telling people until I felt more comfortable and could actually enjoy it. So I'd say don't force yourself to tell people before you are emotionally ready.

I think you hit the nail on the head here. I think the main reason why I'm feeling so anxious is because this wedding and my nosy relatives are pushing me into going public before I'm emotionally ready. 

I'm just not sure what to do because they already know, they are very nosy and are likely to ask me at the wedding if I don't announce beforehand, and I don't want it to come out AT the wedding because I feel like this would be rude to the couple getting married (my cousin). I just feel like I'm backed into a corner 

If they already know, maybe your mom could call them and explain that you are nervous and not ready to talk about this publicly yet, and ask them to not bug you/keep it cool/ let you talk about this on your own time frame/ etc.?  My mom had to do this with some of my family, and it actually worked really well.

melissa721

DOLLFACE!!!!

We've been bumping the shiz out of old threads over on TTGP...and I came across your siggy. Girly I am SO SO SO happy for you!!!! I know it's been a long time but I think about you often. FX for smooth sailing for the rest of your pregnancy and your delivery. Congrats doll!!  

BlueEyedDreamer

melissa721 said:

DOLLFACE!!!!

We've been bumping the shiz out of old threads over on TTGP...and I came across your siggy. Girly I am SO SO SO happy for you!!!! I know it's been a long time but I think about you often. FX for smooth sailing for the rest of your pregnancy and your delivery. Congrats doll!!  

Aaaaaahhhhh!!! I'm so excited to see you - thanks for the love!!! I miss your face!

I can't believe your LO is already so big! And so happy to see you're TFAS!  

rrdiva1

So glad everything is perfect! Do what you feel is comfortable!