Newbie Intro & Question for clarification

ash273uk

Hey all! 
I just started lurking on The Bump so I figured I'd introduce myself.  My name is Ashley.  My H and I are both 31 years old and we've been married a little over a year.  We do not have any children yet, but were planning on starting TTC this month.  However, at the end of May I lost my job.  Unfortunately that has put a major wrench in our plans to start a family.  As of right now, I still don't have a job, and unfortunately we can't afford for me to be a SAHM, so TTC is most definitely put on the backburner until I find work again. 

I'm a planner by nature, so since I can't start TTC yet, I've been trying to do as much research as possible to prepare for when we finally can start TTC.  I've been thinking about coming off BC soon, just so I can figure out my O cycle, but the thought of being off of BC before we're ready to conceive scares the daylights out of me, probably because I have been on it for so long!  So I'm still trying to figure out my next course of action. and I'm hopeful that I'll get a job very soon and can start actually TTC!  I think my first step is going to be to read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" because I can't seem to hear enough good things about that book.  I know it comes highly recommended by girls on this board, and I've heard others say the same.

Anyway, that's a little bit about me and my situation.  I also wanted to ask you girls a question.  After lurking on this board, I'm still a little unsure about something.  Is this board mostly comprised of people who are TTC?  People who are thinking about TTC or getting ready to start TTC?  People who have been TTC but are struggling?  Moms who already have kids but are lending their knowledge/support to those of us who are new to all of this?  A combination of all of the above and then some? 

I guess I'm just trying to figure out if this is the right board for me.  I've also looked at New to the Nest but it looks like this board is way more active, so I just thought I'd try to clarify.

Hope everyone is having a happy Monday. 

Mysterious_wife

We are a melting pot. I have a daughter heading to first grade. I am not TTC and have no plans to start. We are back to tossing around the adoption process. 

There are women on here in my situation. There are people who haven't started TTC. There are women with 2+ and are working on more. There are people who have IF, lost children, had multiples. We all have different stories. 

Lurk and see if you like us. If not, there has to be a board or a site good for you.  Best of luck in your journey. 

Mysterious_wife

Oh and ignore the butt hurt. We are honest and don't sugar coat. If you don't like blunt honesty, then this might not be the fit. 

bugandbibs

If I were in a financially precarious situation, I wouldn't take the risk of going off BC right now. I am very comfortable charting to avoid, but we would have been fine with an accidental pregnancy (although we haven't had one). As @Mysterious_wife said we are a huge mix of people here. We are very supportive, but we don't blow rainbows up your ass. Many of us have been around a long time. We're cool with newbies as long as they don't ask us if they are pregnant. Welcome!

ash273uk

If I were in a financially precarious situation, I wouldn't take the risk of going off BC right now. I am very comfortable charting to avoid, but we would have been fine with an accidental pregnancy (although we haven't had one). As @Mysterious_wife said we are a huge mix of people here. We are very supportive, but we don't blow rainbows up your ass. Many of us have been around a long time. We're cool with newbies as long as they don't ask us if they are pregnant. Welcome!

Yeah I definitely agree. As much as I want a baby, getting pregnant right now would not be a good thing for me! Thanks for your responses, ladies. I'm sure I'll have plenty of questions along the journey. I am the type of person who likes to hear about other people's experiences and (try to) learn from them and it seems like this board has a diverse group of women with many different stories to tell.