am I being oversensitive?

oandmplus1

I have never really cared for the OT we have for EI. My DD has developmental delays and ASD, she is not speaking at all yet but is starting to make progress with signs.
The OT and I were talking on the phone and she said something to the effect of "whatever it is she is capable of learning, you will teach her". It just rubbed me the wrong way. She has made similar comments before. It always makes me feel like she doesn't see DD progressing very far.

I guess my point is, I know the reality of the situation, I just wish she wouldn't have a pre-conceived notion of DD's potential. I just think her therapists should be guiding her to do better, not just expecting her to only reach a certain point. I guess it doesn't matter too much, she is retiring, just wondered if I was being over sensitive.

oandmplus1

Thanks Brandi. Maybe it is just that I don't mesh well with her personality and that made me take it the wrong way.

pastalady

Agh, I hate those types of comments. I tell all the therapists, "Thanks we assume capability until Olivia shows us otherwise." It shuts down those types of comments. I am sure the person didn't mean anything by it and even meant it positively, like pp suggested. But I get how every little thing can sting.

Assembly_Reqd

I would take it as a positive comment. We are all able to work towards our capabilities. She has confidence in you and your ability to get your daughter to where she is supposed to be.

mightmom13

kballou said:

Thanks Brandi. Maybe it is just that I don't mesh well with her personality and that made me take it the wrong way.

I get where you are coming from and could have written something similar about DD's OT. At first she was great, but I don't feel like she is progressing with her now and putting a lot on me. I know I am there on the everyday, but to give something new to me each week and for me not to see her doing the same with DD - shoving things off on age but saying she is moderate to severe SPD and other very...vague statements. She also makes statements to the effect that DD who is very high functioning may need SSI because of her Mito and other co-morbids - but I feel like she and her dx isn't there yet - but she keeps pushing. I think she pushes me more than DD and it pushes my buttons, so we are starting to mesh less and less.

So I know how you feel but I don't have a lot of advice because I don't know where to go from here either - but you did help me address some inner feelings. So thanks

Princess_Lily

Do you feel you are getting anything out of OT anymore, or do you feel just not this therapist?  If its the latter, I would suggest trying to find another OT which works for you.

We personally decided to drop DS' OT, because we believe that his SPD dx simply doesn't exist. Noise sensitivities remain though in large crowds and can be seen with stress/anxiety (which can be also noticed in DH and I).  That being said, DS has learned to try to excuse himself from situations and go off on his own to relax/calm his mind - like we do.  I do notice when DH/I show signs of noise sensitivity, so does DS.

Now when we tried to explain to the OT, and tried to question the dx she gave, she fluffed me off.  Many have said that her reaction was because now we are questioning the expertise...we aren't, we questioned the dx as he is getting older and more mature.

I only say our side, because if you do go the route of dropping OT temp/permanently, you may get some negative reactions from her (as we did).  However you are in this for your childs well-being, not the OT's.

oandmplus1

DD is benefiting from OT, just not with her. She does much better with the other OT we go to. The OT I do not care for is through EI, we take DD to additional therapy on our own since EI isn't giving us enough. That being said, she is now retired and we won't have to deal with her.

mommytoconnor

I can see how you could be irritated by that.  I had a great therapist that said we have no idea his potential, but lets shoot for the stars.  You don't wanna set em up for failure, just set realistic goals that they can meet and it's a day by day thing.  It honestly probably would have rubbed me wrong too, like they are just giving up on em.