Found out yesterday that my cousin's newborn son was born with a collapsed lung yesterday at 40w3d and went to be with Corbin and all our angels 5 hours after his birth. Back when we were in college, my cousin and I were very close. He met his now wife and quit communicating with everyone on our side of the family. DH and I have been around her 4 times in the past 4 years - once was their wedding, once was our grandfather's funeral, once at my cousin's sister's wedding and once at another cousin's wedding.
My dilemma - they live 3 hours away. Not a huge deal. My entire family is up there and we're more than willing to make the trip. However, I'm 24 weeks pregnant and definitely showing no matter what I wear. Because I've been in their shoes, I know that seeing pregnant women can trigger some of us. It never bothered me but I can see why it would bother her. DH thinks we should just go up there anyway and just deal with it. Part of me wants to physically be there and part of me thinks it's better to lend an ear via phone and keep a respectable distance. Not knowing her I can't begin to figure out what she would think. I'm waiting to hear back from my aunt to see what she thinks but I'm torn.
What would you do if you were me?
In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be