Rough U/S

Tallulahsmom

With my first daughter my pregnancy was riddled with problems. I had a placenta previa and bleed more often than not. I went into preterm labor at 32 weeks. When I finally delivered at 40 weeks she was breech and we had a c section. So I was really looking forward to a worry free easy going pregnancy this time. Aside from the morning sickness it had been going great. So I had an ultrasound yesterday and they found a hard marker for down syndrome. I am only 16 weeks and will have another u/s at 20 weeks. My husband and I talked about the possibility of having a child with a disability before we decided to get pregnant. We both agreed and still agree that it doesn't matter to us. We will receive the child we were meant to receive. I just hate that I can't know for sure. We aren't going to do the testing or amnio because they won't tell us without a doubt. I honestly don't know why I want to know for sure since it changes nothing. I guess I am just processing still.

Tallulahsmom

I wanted to add that our little GIRL was perfectly healthy and growing just fine. She moved like crazy the whole time.

gina0485

I am sorry your ultrasound did not turn out ideally, but I think you have a great attitude so far. No matter how your baby girl turns out, it seems like she will be loved and cared for. I will definitely keep you in my thoughts! If it does turn out that your daughter has a condition such as Down's, there are a lot of other moms on TB that could be a good resource, and a lot of great support groups for parents of children with certain conditions that may be useful while adjusting.

babymama619

I'm sorry you're having to have through this, especially the wondering and worrying. I though that an amino could tell you for sure, but obviously I'm not certain. For me I would consider the additional testing so I could prepare before birth in case I needed to.

I just read a book called expecting Adam, very interesting and a good read for someone in your situation I think, as I'm sure you'll love LO no matter what.

I once heard having a child with downs is like Taking a plan and landing in Amsterdam when you expected to land in Rome. Both are great places, just different experiences. I hope that your LO keeps growing and you both stay healthy.

ewochnick

we actually just went through the same thing. we decided it wouldnt matter either way but i needed to know to prepare myself of the outcome.  we had a blood test done (nipd) test and it looks for chromosomal problems.  I was told it is 99% accurate.  We found out Monday that we have a perfect baby girl and its been a big weigh lifted off my shoulders to know the result, no matter what the outcome might have been.   

Tallulahsmom

I read that the amnio is 99% but know someone that had been told their daughter would have downs syndrome and she didn't have it. In fact, she had no complications or any condition. I mulled it over with our doctor and he said that really none of it is 100%. That it could give us an idea but could also be way off or could give false results all together. I just purchased some books and am going to learn as much as I can about it and the other possibilities prior to birth and hope whatever the outcome that she is happy and healthy.

ewochnick

well i guess you right and really dont know till the baby is here but i just want to wish you the best with the rest of your pregnancy!