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lafayettegirl
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FInalization Tomorrow
lafayettegirl
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in Adoption
Our finalization hearing for DS is tomorrow. Because he was in NICU for three weeks (not in our home state), we met with the judge then and the judge stated that we would not have to return to that state for the finalization. Our attorneys will be there and we will call in. By 2:00 p.m. EST, DS will officially be ours in every way!
I know Gotcha Day is usually the day you bring the child home, but could we make tomorrow our Gotcha Day instead?
SO EXCITED!!!
I know Gotcha Day is usually the day you bring the child home, but could we make tomorrow our Gotcha Day instead?
SO EXCITED!!!
Cervical Cancer Survivor since 2007
TTC Since 2008
IUI#1 = BFN
IUI#2 = BFN
IUI#3 = BFN
IUI#4 = BFN
IVF #1 = BFN
FET #1 = BFN
FET #2 = BFN
FET #3 = BFN
IVF #2 = BFN
IVF #3 = BFN
FET #4 = BFN
FET #5 = BFP!!! 06/10/2011
Miscarriage 06/21/2011
Adoption Application Submitted 09/2011, Personal Documents Submitted 11/18/2011, Home Visit 12/16/2011, Officially Waiting!!! 01/21/2013 MATCHED!!!! 01/24/2013 Baby Boy Born!
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Re: FInalization Tomorrow
After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption! We are so excited to see what the future holds.
Congratulations! You can have your day whenever you want!
Side Note: Personally as an adoptee, I do not really believe in "Gotcha days," especially if there are any biological children in the household. My parents never did one and I am grateful. I think that it would have just served to demonstrate difference between my brothers and I (they are biological). I can honestly say gratefully that there were never any distinctions in our family regarding how a child entered a family. That being said I know that a lot of people on this board celebrate them and you need to do what works for your family.
Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.
after several m/c, DD#1 born 7-7-08, more m/c and failed IVF, started adoption process March 2011, matched Oct 2, 2012, DD#2 born 10-31-12
Hope Wait Pray Adoption Blog
after several m/c, DD#1 born 7-7-08, more m/c and failed IVF, started adoption process March 2011, matched Oct 2, 2012, DD#2 born 10-31-12
Hope Wait Pray Adoption Blog
TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009)
November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency
January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles
February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
For what it's worth, we celebrate the boys' "Adoption Days." Initially, we called it "family day," but it didn't make much sense for them to have different family days, so we changed what we call it. We always point out that we cellebrate the day each of us came to the family--my husband and me through our aniversary, and the boys through their adoption days. Our birthdays are something else entirely, and their gotcha days are just for remembering the day we met.
That being said, adoption days aren't always simply feel-good celebrations. In the days leading up to it, M is usually filled with thoughts of his first mom and mourns her loss all over again. We do our best to talk him through it and tell him we would rather he could live with her, but since he can't, we are sure glad he's become part of our family. Even despite this, his adoption day commemoration/celebration is really important to him. For that, I'm thankful, because it's yet another sign of his desire to be part of our family even though he's sad he lost him mom.