Background: My last post about this was about a conversation that was had with BM about a modification. We are due for a modification based on income change and BM just recently quit her job. She said that DH should pay more bc she no longer works.
Anyway, she just added that SS tuition for his school went up so she wants even more money. DH never agreed for SS to go to this religion based school and its even in their CO that BM and DH are to make all religious decisions together. When we discussed it with our attorney he said that DH didn't have to pay for it but fighting for a school change would be pretty pointless bc SS is going into the 4th grade and a judge may say that changing his school now would be too disruptive to SS life. I looked into the claims that the school's tuition went up and according to the school's website, nothing has changed since last years rates.
DH's cs has extracurricular activities factored into it and BM is now saying if DH doesn't agree to paying for the alleged tuition changes than SS will not be able to play soccer, football and baseball this year as she will be using the extracurricular activities funds for tuition.
Since the funds are specifically stated to be used for extracurricular activities can DH ask for this to be enforced? It seems really silly to even start a sort of "war" with her over this, but SS is already overweight and its important to DH that SS stay active while in BMs care. Which is the whole reason for the additional funds.
I'm thinking she is trying to push DH into a corner to voluntarily offer more money and he should just ignore her requests/threats. Thoughts?
Re: yet another cs modification post
I hate these games! BM here is famous for them. "SD needs Miss Me jeans, and you won't buy them, so the kids won't have any FOOD you mean ogre!" We ignore all these random trade off emails. If she uses funds earmarked for ECs, nail her for contempt. Until then, you just have to wait and see. If she's like BM here, she will shoot herself in the foot until she notices that it hurts. It takes a while. So SS might miss summer two a days, but she will get him going late. You, meanwhile, are filing contempt.
Ignore her rewriting of the CO about tuition. That's the hardest thing in the world for me - when BM creates storms over imaginary issues...it's hard not to engage. But don't. Just let her know that you don't intend to pay more as tuition has not increased. Then leave it alone.
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I'm still shaking my head about her quitting her job, but I am accepting its not something I have input on. I think you are confusing me with someone else bc SS is 9 yo. I'm not sure if that changes your answer at all.
The quality of school he is in may also be part of the reason she chose the school she did, but with DH's military status, he could have gone to a better FREE school, but she said no. I wonder if BM tries to take this further if pointing out the above would make a difference.
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Yes SS has the option of going to the school on base (right next to his house BTW) but BM said she doesn't want him going there bc her mother teaches there. He lives with that grandmother and has no chance of being in her class, but BM has reasons she wont share with us for him not attending. I don't understand it especially since the quality of education would be better. Another thing that confuses me is BM is Catholic but the school she chose for SS is Baptist. He's only nine, but already is asking questions bc what he learns in school contradicts what he learns on Sundays at church.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013