DH is in the hospital with a bad infection and will be there for at least 2-3 days on IV antibiotics. We were on vacation last week and this is a busy week for me at work. DS is very sensitive to DH being in the hospital due to a bad fall two years ago that left him in he ICU for 5 days and then home recouperating for another 10 weeks or so, so he is very upset and wants to see DH. I didn't get home from the hospital until 12:30 and then DS woke up at 1:30 with horrible leg pain and I was up with him for an hour.
So I was planning to skip work today and visit DH with DS. I am undecided about tomorrow at this point. DH keeps telling me I should just go to work and we can visit him in the evening but I can't imagine just letting him sit in the hospital all day while I am in the office. And I would hope that if I were in the hospital he would not just go off to work as always.
So WWYD if it were your DH?
Re: DH in Hospital - WWYD about work?
If you qualify for FMLA this is a protected incident under the act.
"No one will ever know the strength of my love for you. After all, you're the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside." -Unknown
Good point - I did not even think about that. I do qualify for FMLA.
Well, I'd actually have to stay home because DH is a SAHD. But if we had childcare...
DH can't eat anything so no bringing him food in the hospital. I have just under a one-hour commute to work and then to come home and get DS and go to the hospital would be an hour and a half because of where the hospital is in relation to home/work. So if I went in for 3-4 hours I would end up driving 2.5 hours.
ETA: I do have a laptop and connectivity from home so I am able to do some things here at the house this morning. Hospital visiting hours are not until 12.
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Sadly, the hospital near our house is horrible so DH is about 25 miles away which is a little inconvenient for quick visits. My job is nowhere near the hospital either.
I am salaried so hopefully I will just get paid my normal pay as long as I can accomplish what I need to from home today/tomorrow. I will decide later today if I will be going in tomorrow.
I may do that, once I see how he is doing today and get him some things that he will want/need at the hospital like his laptop, books, etc.
Do what you can and don't overtire yourself! Work isn't going anywhere. Check your FMLA options and then hopefully you have an understanding workplace that realizes that stuff like this happens. Work from the hospital if you really need to in order to keep connected or check a few emails. Honestly, the PP who said these days in the office won't matter later on in life is right IMO.
Take care of you and your lo and good luck with your DH!
If it were me, I would want to be alone in the hospital. I wouldn't want DH there bothering me to get better faster.
Honestly, as long as he was stable and moving toward recovery, I would leave DH in the hospital and bring our girls to visit in the evenings. I would either go to work or work from home.