Scared

eg214

How do you ladies do it? I have moments of being really scared. Scared of how I'm going to provide for my child. Scared of the future and whether or not I can do this. Scared of how this will be on my own without BD and without family and close friends nearby. Scared of putting my child in daycare and something happening. Just scared of everything. I'm trying not to panic myself or stress myself, but I know my entire world is going to change in 6 months. I'm laying here in bed alone and know that soon, I will have someone depending on me for survival. I'm a pro at taking care of kids (nanny, teacher, etc.) so it's not that, it's just...being alone.

babymama619

I was just thinking this yesterday, I wonder if knowing too much, nanny and teacher, sets us up to be more worried than people who have no idea what's coming. Just a thought.

I'm a FTM, and sometimes I get scared too. I try to acknowledge the fear then move on. I might cry to
Myself or my mom, but then i take a deep breath and figure out what i can do to help a situation. Crying and worry gets us nowhere. What else can I do? I just have to make it work and try to make the best choices when the time comes.

I'm particularly worried about finances now. So yesterday I say down and wrote everything out so that I know exactly where I stand and it's not arbitrary worry. Looking at it in black and white helps me figure out a plan of attack and let's me feel like I'm more in control of things.


One more thing, make sure you're not wasting energy on thinking "what if" he was here, he was better, blah blah blah. That just gets you deeper into worry.
Hope you're feeling more solid soon.

tracy41

A lot of your fears are common to all moms, some just have an involved father to talk about it with! You will never be free of some basic fear for your child but you get used to it. Seriously. If you couldn't you'd end up being a hermit, having groceries delivered, and never letting the kid outside. If you are a teacher now you know the kernel of doubt every one of the parents who left their kids with you felt.

I like babymama's advice about writing stuff down and planning how you are going to handle it. Financially that's about all you can do! I will say trying to plan ahead of time always drives me crazy because you're always trying to juggle a hundred maybes. Once the kid is here and you're putting plans into action it's a lot easier.