Bad Day Yesterday

rachaelT28

Yesterday was not great, my ex keeps telling me he wants to be at the delivery of the baby, and for a while I thought why not? He is the baby's father after all. The only thing is I am high risk and now I am having complications that there is no help for. When my body gives out it gives out and there will be a sick baby. He makes me so angry, he pushed me out the door of our home with our two boys, he verbally abused me and had his girlfriend call and abuse me till I could not take it anymore I left. I now live alone with my boys and yesterday I was having some pretty nasty contractions and bleeding (like I have been) so I texted him, and he texts me back and tells me he is busy becasue its his only day off and what did I want him to do? What did I want him to do? hmmmm. SHOW SOME CONCERN!! So I decided to just limit him to only scheduling visits with his sons. I have decided to definately ban him from the hospital, lets face it we don't live together so short of someone putting it up on social media he won't even know his sons been born. I have a birthing coach, but I wish he cared even a little, but hes so busy being a boyfriend he does not care about his baby.

mamaHippo23

Sorry so you're going through all this stress. I know it's painful and unfair, and you deserve better. The best thing to do is ignore him completely until he takes initiative to participate like a responsible father. Keep living your life, taking care of your body and your baby, and stick with your decision to not include him until he's ready to give 100%.

As much as you want him to show some interest, don't get yourself upset about his responses because you know he's the one in the wrong. Focus on being the best mother you can be and hopefully one day BD will open his eyes and get on board.

tracy41

Good for you! You do not need that stress right now or in the delivery room. I'd like to tell you I think he'll get better but my XH is 9 months into a relationship and he still puts DS1's needs behind his and his GF's...and her kids. I just focus on being the mom I want to be and let him screw up on his own. And occasionally vent about it here, of course.

Gamera3000

Yeah birthing is going to be hard enough I wouldn't have anyone there who doesn't make you feel completely supported and comfortable.