I have become so painfully baby crazy over the past six months or so, but I feel like I have no one to talk to about it. DH and I decided we will switch modes after our one year anniversary in September, and will go into "not trying but not preventing" mode. We already know that I have repro issues and plan to just see how it goes and then handle it as needed.
We get lectures from ILs all the time about how they can't wait for babies from us, even though SIL is expecting. I was at her baby shower today and was getting grilled about it all day. But I do not want to say anything about our plans because it is my body and I don't feel like divulging all that info to them, as well as do not want to get questions about why we aren't pg yet once we stop preventing. So I can't say anything there.
My parents are the opposite. My mom believes you have to have everything right in your life in order to have a baby; perfect income, perfect house and perfect timing. When I mention kids, she doesn't say anything, which has always been her sign of disapproval. She criticizes my SIL for not being able to afford more than a one bedroom apt, saying she will have no room for the baby. This is also our situation and I know she feels the same way.
I have no friends who are in our shoes either. DHs friends all had kids young and accidentally, and none of my friends have kids or even spouses for that matter. I kept telling DH we would wait till we can buy a house but I feel like I can't wait that long. I know I need to just be patient but its getting so hard. I have no one to talk to about this baby craziness (DH has been baby crazy for years and thinks we sold just have one but he doesn't think of all the things that come with babies). I am stuck between two extremes; ILs who want a grand baby right now, and family/friends who discourage it.
Thanks for listening to my vent. I guess this is the place to talk about baby craziness so I thought I'd spill here.