I think I am still in the process of trying to accept DS having SPD, but as he gets older I notice I am more confused than ever before.
Last summer DS (strongwilled and a social butterfly) was dx'd with SPD without a co-morbidity and he was seeing an OT. We also had him in a learn-through-play preschool, which was familiar with his difficulties and met 2x per week ( for 2 hours a day), and he also went to speech. Due to the DSM-V release, we became more confused, however stuck out this schedule.
This summer, we decided to try out a traditional preschool. This would give me a much needed break while at the same time DS can get a handle on both social and academic needs. We phased out the OT minimizing his schedule, and only focused on ST & Preschool. When I went to the school, I asked them about their experience with children who need a bit more attention, and also told them about DS' SPD, it seems they were open with the idea. Now we are 2 weeks into the new routine, DS is fighting them (expectedly so) on transitional periods as well as authority. They said he doesn't know his place, and will try to boss around the teachers.
I want to meet with director, teacher and teacher asst. to remind them of his SPD and come up with ways to help him in the classroom. I am not using his SPD as an excuse to behave a certain way, I just want him to intergrate in the traditional class with other children his age. He seemed to be showing signs too though of his SPD (possibly flair-ups from stress??) like he licked another child his first week, and now 2 boys avoid. This whole thing is making me sad, confused and scared.
I don't want a label on my child, but its also hard to avoid his behavior problems relating to SPD, and I'm not sure if its him being strong willed or his SPD.
>Is it possible to place him into a public school for kindergarten and KEEP him in the classes, like inclusively?
>Since DS's SPD dx isn't found with a co-morbidity how will this affect DS in his school (relating to DS's DSM-V)?
>Is DS's dx private information that only his school will know about? Who do I inform about the dx?
>There is a charter as well as a regular public school in my district (both go form K-8th) and it seems that parents of children who need more attention place their child in the regular public school because there is more programs to help children with special needs. However, what if I want to go through private funding, is that possible? How will public therapeutic programs help/hinder DS?
>All of my brothers therapeutic needs were covered in the 80s by a non-profit organization due to the medical condition he was born with, and for any academic extra help - my family hired tutors. Now in school, my brother wasn't in any special classes, he was inclusive - I want DS to do the same. Is that even possible?!?
Should I continue in the school DS is in, or should we place him back into the old schedule and substitute at home for his educational needs? I just dont know where to go from here - and how I could best prepare DS for the "big pond" of public school.