DH and I went to a newborn care class last night at a local hospital. Of course we were the only adoptive parents in the class of 14 and said so during the introductions. The instructor was a lactation consultant so she had an agenda to push breastfeeding as much as possible. Throughout the class, we were not acknowledged even once that our situation may be a bit different when it comes to feeding. (She could have thrown us a bone and talked a little bit about how to prepare the formula or how to promote attachment during feeding, something like that.)
When it came to talking about post partum depression, not a word that it could happen to us too.
I am learning that we will always be second to biological parents (even though we are not) when it comes to classes like that or how some people view us. I will do my best to make myself not be treated like one.
We would have been better off observing someone with a baby. Luckily, the class was only $40 but still...
Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby. Bumping from Portland, Oregon.
Re: Newborn Care class
We had a somewhat similar experience, but not quite so overt. There were no intros, so no one knew we were adopting. The regular instructor wasn't there, so the lactation consultant taught the night we went. She literally told us BFing cures cancer
Luckily for us, she did mention formula feeding in passing, and we learned how much/how often newborns should eat, and how often to bathe them. She even showed how big a nb stomach is, so don't freak if they only eat an ounce at a time at first.
I left the class telling DH that FFing was the second hand smoke of the 21st century.