UO anyone?

quidditchcapn1120

ccip82 said:

MindyBadger1 said:

I don't understand the purpose of and and I side-eye the shit out of anyone who registers for/ buys a baby bathtub. Blooming bath, sure. Mesh thingy, sure. A mini tub with a spout? No.

ETA- for some reason baby bathtubs make me rageful.

What about this one?

DD loved her whale and would still take tubbies in it...if she fit!

That's the one I've been eyeing!!!

What's the reasoning behind not like tubs? Are they a waste? I'm genuinely wondering

I have that tub and I LOVE it.  And so did DS.  We put it in the laundry room when it wasn't in use (which was really just a closet).

DamnPrecious

iloveburritos said:

I hate acronyms. DH, DD, etc...just type it out! Those six extra letters aren't going to kill you.

This made me lol because you used etc instead of et cetera.

peanutmuse

MarBee -- TOS is Terms of Service

iloveburritos

DamnPrecious said:

This made me lol because you used etc instead of et cetera.

But that's an abbreviation, not an acronym

jknauer8

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

Kknova5

LMCB12 said:

I got Chipotle for the first time and was not impressed. I don't get what all the hype is about.

I agree. But if you are craving a burrito, the new cantina menu at Taco Bell is actually good. (I generally can't stand Taco Bell, but this was pretty good. )

sugarland726

Well, someone was just saying this wished this post got more interesting. This is likely to go over as well as a fart in church.

salsamommy

My UO for the day ... 

I just got an invite the other day to a friend's baby shower. The kicker is she's pregnant with twins and she has a 4 year old and a 2 year old already and she's throwing the shower for herself!!!!!!!!

You can't tell me she doesn't have enough stuff??? Even if they end up being boys (they have 2 girls) they both make extremely good money, flashing their designer clothes and accessories all the time!!!  It's just down right TACKY!!!!  

ccip82

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

Yay!!! I got to use my new kitty gif!

brideandbreve

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

Ugh, I really want to take the bait on this one, but I'm afraid my boss will be back any moment now and I'll have to post-and-run.

cpm1223

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

vstevens

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

Wow.  Just....wow.

adfee

SunflowersBride said:

This is a repeat UO for me, but in light of all the posts about it, I can't stand cutesy Facebook pregnancy announcements. IF (and it's a big if) I decide to post about being pregnant on Facebook, it will just be like "hey guys, we're having a baby!"  I actually haven't even taken a bump photo yet, so maybe I'm just a horrible person/future mother...

Agree Sunflower.  I never made one for my first and will not do one for my second.  I guess the world will know if someone happens to take a picture of me while pregnant, post it, and tag me. Other than than, I'll post a pic of the new baby at some point and welcome him/her to the Facebook madness. 

I also never took weekly bump photos with my son and won't with this one. I remember what Iooked/look like and don't really want to remember.  

peanutmuse

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

I'll tell you what that's about. How about none of your fucking business regarding the difficult decisions people have to make in their lives.

mrsjenni

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

You're a fucking idiot.  Do you understand that some genetic testing results (that you consider to be simply "unfavorable") mean certain death for the baby, and sometimes even the mother? You have no idea what you would do if you were given the same type of "unfavorable" results where your baby has no chance of surviving.  You're a piece of shit for even saying that.  I wish that choice on no one!

Piach

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

So NOT cool!

While I have never had to make the gut wrenching, life changing decision to terminate a pregnancy, I had a very close friend who had an "incompatible with life" diagnosis. You can and never will know what you would do in that situation until you are actually faced with it.

Unpopular opinions are one thing - this is not an unpopular opinion, it is just plain SHITTY!

brideandbreve

mrs.jenni said:

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

You're a fucking idiot.  Do you understand that some genetic testing results (that you consider to be simply "unfavorable") mean certain death for the baby, and sometimes even the mother? You have no idea what you would do if you were given the same type of "unfavorable" results where your baby has no chance of surviving.  You're a piece of shit for even saying that.  I wish that choice on no one!

Aside from the fact that your response is spot on (as are the responses of @peanut+muse and @Piach), the best part for me is that we can call someone a piece of shit on TB without being censored anymore.

=D>

Piach

I guess that I am in the minority on the birth plan, but this may be a difference in hospitals.

In my hospital package for pre-registration they ask for a birth plan (not required) and even provide a checklist for you to state your preferences - Pain Management Plan (there are like 5 options), Guests, Interventions (asks which ones you are familar with and what if any you would like more information on from your birthing staff), etc.

I loved that not a single nurse, assistant or even doctor had to ask me what I wanted.  I was only telling them when I wanted to deviate from the preferences.

valigrl21

mrs.jenni said:

peanut+muse said:

I have another one. I don't flipping care what badges I have. I don't understand why anyone cares about that. And clicking "love it" just to give someone the love it badge, or saying a person's name just to get the name-dropper badge is kind of lame.

Almost as lame as food UOs.

I guess I don't understand what the badges are even for.  It's not like anyone can see them.  Can they?  ETA: Nevermind, I answered my own question. (Do I get an answer badge for that??)

I WANT MY NESTICLES BACK.

Wait, can anyone else see your badges? How?

Shayliz

sugarland726 said:

ShhItsASecret said:

I'm not entirely sure if this is a UO but I'm going to give this a shot. I think having a birth plan is a waste of time... I had one with both of my previous deliveries and shit did not go down the way I had "planned"... This time I'm just going with the flow, I don't freaking know if I will want pain meds or low lights or music or whatever until I'm there in the moment. I feel like if I don't sit and spend hours on a birth plan I won't be disappointed if things go differently than what I wanted. Plus I have the same OB and she pretty much knows where I'm at so at least she has a general idea of my likes and dislikes etc.

Here's a great birth plan: Get baby out alive. Keep mom alive.

This was my answer when the nurse in L&D asked me if I had a birth plan, with the addition of FFS GIVE ME THE EPIDURAL PLEASE.

moosebaby2011

jknauer8 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

Ummm... until you end up in someone else's shoes please do not attempt to walk in them.

July1215

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

https://i43.tinypic.com/2po8e9v.jpg It's a choice that they have the legal right to make. ETA- you have got to be trying to create drama, right?

jknauer8

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

vstevens

July1215 said:

UO: and I know this is for the most part an UO (because of experience)....it makes me angry to find out someone got a unfavorable genetic testing result...(ie: there are issues and probs with the baby), and decide to terminate their pregnancy. WTF is that about?!

It's a choice that they have the legal right to make.

And as someone who has been painfully close to this issue at least once so far during this pregnancy, can I just say thank goodness this is the case.

Also jknauer8, consider yourself blessed that you have no fucking idea what you're talking about.

wiechs22

ShhItsASecret said:

I'm not entirely sure if this is a UO but I'm going to give this a shot. I think having a birth plan is a waste of time... I had one with both of my previous deliveries and shit did not go down the way I had "planned"... This time I'm just going with the flow, I don't freaking know if I will want pain meds or low lights or music or whatever until I'm there in the moment. I feel like if I don't sit and spend hours on a birth plan I won't be disappointed if things go differently than what I wanted.
Plus I have the same OB and she pretty much knows where I'm at so at least she has a general idea of my likes and dislikes etc.

I think having an idea of what you want is ok, but if your write it down and hand it do a nurse you just signed your c/s papers.

brideandbreve

Shayliz said:

sugarland726 said:

ShhItsASecret said:

I'm not entirely sure if this is a UO but I'm going to give this a shot. I think having a birth plan is a waste of time... I had one with both of my previous deliveries and shit did not go down the way I had "planned"... This time I'm just going with the flow, I don't freaking know if I will want pain meds or low lights or music or whatever until I'm there in the moment. I feel like if I don't sit and spend hours on a birth plan I won't be disappointed if things go differently than what I wanted. Plus I have the same OB and she pretty much knows where I'm at so at least she has a general idea of my likes and dislikes etc.

Here's a great birth plan: Get baby out alive. Keep mom alive.

This was my answer when the nurse in L&D asked me if I had a birth plan, with the addition of FFS GIVE ME THE EPIDURAL PLEASE.

Bwahahaha! Love it!

The nurse asked me if I had a plan and I looked at her and said, "Um, leave the hospital with a healthy baby..?" Her response was, "I can tell we're gonna like you."

Apparently, the mom in the room closest to mine had a 3 page "birth plan" of everything she required for laboring and delivering.

July1215

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

I am sure plenty of women debate you on your opinion, but why beat a dead horse?

moosebaby2011

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

karah4816

bethughknee said:

karah4816 said:

sugarland726 said:

I love British royalty. (Maybe that's a UO by itself).

If loving them is wrong, then I don't wanna be right. We can have our cake and eat it, too these days. Have the fun watching their big celebratory occasions and not be oppressed by their monarchy.

PS - I can still adore Kate, buy the same TopShop dresses as her, AND donate money/time to children in need. I don't think you have to care about one OR the other.

I don't know if you we're referring to her or me cause she said she likes the royal family. If it was to me I say care about whatever you want. There's nothing wrong with caring about them I just don't like it when people assume that we all are supposed to care about them, and when real news is put on hold so they can tell us that Kate has been admitted.

Definitely was NOT referring to you, @karah4816. I get that it's not for everyone. It was more a sub-thought at a "friend" who basically told me this week that if I care about the royal family, I must be a really selfish person who couldn't possibly be bothered with thoughts of charity to those in need. And to that I say, bite me!

haha, good. I just didn't want anyone thinking that I'm telling people what can and cant interest them

jknauer8

christinesb19 said:

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

I understand what you're saying, and I am truly sorry if this hurt anyone. I will not post about a subject that may hurt others, ( and I am being sincere, not a smart ass.) I knew it was an UO of mine, but I should have thought about the fact that it may hurt others. But to be honest, we should all think about what we post in that regard then, right? Someone posted about how the new baby being named George was boring (not that that bothers me at all), but what if one of the girls on here lost her dad last night, and his name was George? Would that not hurt her ?So in that regard, anything negative and hurtful posted could potentially hurt someone else. Anyway, I am sorry.

peanutmuse

christinesb19 said:

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

And yes, @jknauer8, there actually is someone on this board who was forced to make this horrible, horrible decision. I am going to go ahead and assume that you are a pretty ignorant person, because that's the only way that I can get through reading your garbage without wanting to tear you apart.

wiechs22

christinesb19 said:

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.
You said this way better then what I've been trying to get out.

ccip82

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

I understand what you're saying, and I am truly sorry if this hurt anyone. I will not post about a subject that may hurt others, ( and I am being sincere, not a smart ass.) I knew it was an UO of mine, but I should have thought about the fact that it may hurt others. But to be honest, we should all think about what we post in that regard then, right? Someone posted about how the new baby being named George was boring (not that that bothers me at all), but what if one of the girls on here lost her dad last night, and his name was George? Would that not hurt her ?So in that regard, anything negative and hurtful posted could potentially hurt someone else. Anyway, I am sorry.

I can't even believe you are trying to equate your UO to this load of horse shit! You should have just stopped with the apology. Seriously.

moosebaby2011

ccip82 said:

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

I understand what you're saying, and I am truly sorry if this hurt anyone. I will not post about a subject that may hurt others, ( and I am being sincere, not a smart ass.) I knew it was an UO of mine, but I should have thought about the fact that it may hurt others. But to be honest, we should all think about what we post in that regard then, right? Someone posted about how the new baby being named George was boring (not that that bothers me at all), but what if one of the girls on here lost her dad last night, and his name was George? Would that not hurt her ?So in that regard, anything negative and hurtful posted could potentially hurt someone else. Anyway, I am sorry.

I can't even believe you are trying to equate your UO to this load of horse shit! You should have just stopped with the apology. Seriously.

@ccip82 - I'm glad you said something. I'm rather flabbergasted by that part of her response but I am rapidly running out of polite replies. Not that this warrants a polite reply at all.

DamnPrecious

sugarland726 said:

Well, someone was just saying this wished this post got more interesting. This is likely to go over as well as a fart in church.

This isn't what I had in mind. This is too heartless to be entertaining.

ccip82

DamnPrecious said:

sugarland726 said:

Well, someone was just saying this wished this post got more interesting. This is likely to go over as well as a fart in church.

This isn't what I had in mind. This is too heartless to be entertaining.

Totally agree, while I love a good debate this ended up to be down right insensitive and asinine.

peanutmuse

jknauer8 said:
I understand what you're saying, and I am truly sorry if this hurt anyone. I will not post about a subject that may hurt others, ( and I am being sincere, not a smart ass.) I knew it was an UO of mine, but I should have thought about the fact that it may hurt others. But to be honest, we should all think about what we post in that regard then, right? Someone posted about how the new baby being named George was boring (not that that bothers me at all), but what if one of the girls on here lost her dad last night, and his name was George? Would that not hurt her ?So in that regard, anything negative and hurtful posted could potentially hurt someone else. Anyway, I am sorry.

Are you kidding me right now? That is not even close to the same thing. It's not like anyone said "Everyone named George is a dumb ass," which would be an offensive thing to say. There is a difference between an opinion about a name and a straight up offensive comment. Yours fell into the latter category.

You should have stopped while you are ahead. Apologies are more effective when you don't try to qualify them. Always.

aessary03

jknauer8 said:

christinesb19 said:

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

I understand what you're saying, and I am truly sorry if this hurt anyone. I will not post about a subject that may hurt others, ( and I am being sincere, not a smart ass.) I knew it was an UO of mine, but I should have thought about the fact that it may hurt others. But to be honest, we should all think about what we post in that regard then, right? Someone posted about how the new baby being named George was boring (not that that bothers me at all), but what if one of the girls on here lost her dad last night, and his name was George? Would that not hurt her ?So in that regard, anything negative and hurtful posted could potentially hurt someone else. Anyway, I am sorry.

That's a pretty shitty apology! To compare it to the name thing is pretty lame. Not even in the same ball park. Until you've experienced a loss or have had to make this decision, you have no clue what you're fucking talking about. It's not an unpopular opinion. It's a completely insensitive one. Don't bother trying to clarify your apology. You'll just make it worse.

shortstuff15

wiechs22 said:

I'm not entirely sure if this is a UO but I'm going to give this a shot. I think having a birth plan is a waste of time... I had one with both of my previous deliveries and shit did not go down the way I had "planned"... This time I'm just going with the flow, I don't freaking know if I will want pain meds or low lights or music or whatever until I'm there in the moment. I feel like if I don't sit and spend hours on a birth plan I won't be disappointed if things go differently than what I wanted. Plus I have the same OB and she pretty much knows where I'm at so at least she has a general idea of my likes and dislikes etc.

I think having an idea of what you want is ok, but if your write it down and hand it do a nurse you just signed your c/s papers.

Really?  I guess if you have a 5000 page very detailed plan about every single moment of labour and delivery I could see nurses giving you a serious side eye, but simply writing down some simple desires, whether or not they happen, is not going to cause the nurses to hate you.  My birth plan has been the same for both girls: No epi unless I need it, No episiotomy, No vita K unless it’s a traumatic birth, Don’t break my water, Deliver right onto my chest, Delay clamping the chord for a couple minutes. 

I do write it out and give it to them because then it's on my file and I don't get asked a bazillion times about pain management.  Now if things got crazy none of what I have written would matter, and I'm fine with that.  My first was a vacuum delivery so the nurses asked me if it was ok to give vita K.  I agreed.  I also allowed them to break my water once I started pushing.  But having some sort of preference written out isn't a bad thing in my opinion.

Shayliz

jknauer8 said:

jknauer8 said:

Umm OK? That's why it is an UO apparently....next time you should title your post UO's that people can handle hearing....and next time I'll stick with posting about food and baby bath tubs and fun-loving stuff that is easy to hear. Discussion over! Have a great day.

@jknauer8: there is a big difference between posting something that people may not agree with and posting something that is deeply personal and very hurtful to some of the members of this board who actually have had to deal with this situation. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but to expect to not have any backlash from your statement is completely ridiculous.

I understand what you're saying, and I am truly sorry if this hurt anyone. I will not post about a subject that may hurt others, ( and I am being sincere, not a smart ass.) I knew it was an UO of mine, but I should have thought about the fact that it may hurt others. But to be honest, we should all think about what we post in that regard then, right? Someone posted about how the new baby being named George was boring (not that that bothers me at all), but what if one of the girls on here lost her dad last night, and his name was George? Would that not hurt her ?So in that regard, anything negative and hurtful posted could potentially hurt someone else. Anyway, I am sorry.

"I'm sorry, but.." is not an apology. Not even touching the rest of the nonsense you just posted.