lost at 21 weeks and we had to make the choice

hoho0229

Its been a month but its still so hard...our amnio came back with the worst news possible...our baby was going to be so sick...he would have been alive but he never would have lived and the choice was ours...bring him into a life of pain or take the pain ourselves and let him go so we had to let him go...its the worst decision to have to make with no easy answer and no one seeems to really understand how painful the situation really is.   and the make things worse so many people at work still think im pregnant and most days i get asked questions like "hows the baby"...i just feel so alone and like the this nightmare is never going to end...

hoho0229

all i hear is "oh i had a miscarriage too" no one really understands the extra turn of the dagger with having to make the decision...and that we didnt just loose a pregnancy we lost a baby that i felt move and had a name

princezjk

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine having to make that decision. You are very brave to have faced that. Sending you lots of (((hugs))). I hope you find this board as helpful as I have.

Noethola

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I am so very sorry for your loss of your son. Please feel free to share your LOs name. We like to hear our own LOs names, as we are reminded each time of the life that we held under our hearts. 

The decision you made would have been terrible for anyone, but it is amazing how insensitive people can be. I hope that you and your DH/SO are able to work through the pain that comes with loss, grief and the making of the decision. Please use this board as little or as much as you need.

hopefulmom88

I am so sorry for the loss of your son.  I know how hard it is to make such a decision.  It is something I wish no one ever had to do.  I hope you find lots of support on this board ((Hugs))

jess123456

Big hugs to you. I am so sorry for your loss. I will private message you.

meli1025

I am so sorry for the loss of your son and wish you didn't have to be faced with such a tough decision.  People really do not understand and I also hate the miscarriage comparison.  I've had an early loss and a late loss, the two really don't compare. 

You've come to a really wonderful place for support.  ((HUGS))  Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers.

shandorfml2

So sorry for the loss of your son. Big, big hugs

JessicaG220

I am so very sorry for your loss of your son.  You were faced with such a difficult decision, something that no one should ever have to deal with.  Know that you are not alone, and we all understand your pain of losing your baby.  Though we all have unique situations, we all share heartache and struggles.  Take care of yourself!!!!!  Lots and lots of hugs.

Carolee

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son.

Dixon813

So very sorry for the loss of your son.  Many thoughts and prayers for you.

hoho0229

thanks everyone...sorry there are so many of us dealing with losses his name was tyler henry.  i had a d/e that i was put under for.  i literaly went to sleep, woke up and he was gone....i never got to hold him or see his face even though im not sure which situation would have been more or less traumatizing. 

PerkyErky

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I am so sorry for your loss. This board is full of amazing women. Use it as muh or as little as you need. Tyler Henry is a beautiful name.

LuckEinLuv

I also had a D&E and never got to meet my sweet boy. Feel free to PM me anytime. The additional guilt is so hard to bear. Tyler knows that you will hurt for the rest of your days so that he did not feel a second of pain. {{hugs}}

yosemitemom

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. We lost our daughter at 21 weeks and had to make the impossible decision as well. I still don't have the words to adequately describe how difficult her loss has been. I'm 14 months out and the raw, roaring grief of early days has passed, but the grief is still present, tucked neatly in my heart. It gets triggered often, but the days and months are easier than they once were. I wish you all the best.