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What do you judge other moms for?
FFM's vodka story reminded me of a very flameful story my friend told me. I think I may have posted this before so if so, sorry! My friend and her sister and her neices (aged 2 and 4 months or so) went to Hawaii on a family trip. They are very 'wealthy' and brought their nanny along so they could relax by the pool. Well my friends BIL put vodka in a water bottle so they could drink by the pool (I guess not wealthy enough to buy drinks from the waitstaff). The nanny wasn't aware of this and mixed the babies bottle with the vodka. Luckily, the baby refused to drink it and didn't end up getting any or much.
But can you imagine??
I totally judged.
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Re: What do you judge other moms for?
I've become much less judgy as Ethan's gotten older, but I'd definitely judge that. ?That's crazy. ?
I saw a woman riding a bike the other day with her child in the basket above the handle bars. ?
There's also a mom at the park who drives a topless jeep and has her toddler's carseat in the front seat. ?Turns out it's legal, but I totally judge it.
Most of the stuff I judge these days are overt safety issues. ? ?
drinking in excess on a regular basis and any and all drugs.
let's just say I have just recently had to deal with this idiocy and may be dealing with a family drama stemming from it this year - so you BET I judge this crap!
Ditto!
I was at a football game right before Thanksgiving and it was below freezing at the game. There were lots of small kids and babies there and I judged all of those parents, those kids had to have been miserable.
A mom posted about how she went to a party at the neighbor's and left the baby at home. She said it was just up the street and she brought the monitor with her. Since everything went okay the post was like, "wee, flame free, I had so much fun, wee!" I could never do it, something could have happened.
eta: I guess I judge when someone comes on a message board and brags about dangerous parenting like it is cool.
I used to judge the hell out of my good friend who as older kids that are incredibly picky. As in the younger one, who's now 11, will eat only french fries, rice with soy sauce, plain water (if there's anything in it, like a slice of lemon, she won't drink it), etc. Guess what I now have? An incredibly picky toddler. Paybacks are hell!
So I try not to judge, but without much success. I'm pretty judgmental even though I wish I weren't. I would have judged those parents with the vodka, too. And I judge pretty much everything my BIL and SIL do. But that's because they annoy me. LOL.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
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Oh, wow. I could never do this. I would be so afraid something would happen.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
I judge all of DH's cousins who smoke pot, and deal drugs out of their hose, none of them have jobs. I also judge adults who smoke in the car with their kids.
I was judged by a cousin of mine, because I let DD have chocolate milk at lunch. I laughed to myself thinking how she would crap if she knew I let DD drink Sprite.
Totally ditto the adults smoking with kids in the car or even with them period. That just sends me over the edge.
I also judged a Mom I know who gave her 6 month old McDonald's french fries as a veggie for lunch.
I hate when I see parents walking AHEAD of their little kids...especially when they are really far ahead of them and someone could snatch them without the parent ever even knowing they are so oblivious.
I'm sure there are more.
wow, are your DH's cousin's friends with my BIL? ;P Oh, and they smoke in the car with our nephew. YUCK!
My DD doesn't like chocolate milk, but I don't judge if that is what your DD likes. As long as you aren't shoving sugar down her throat all day long.
I will also add a little more - kids that eat nothing but crap all day long (sorry, cookies are NOT a breakfast food) and a kid who whines all day long with the paci stuck in his mouth. Take the darn cork out and let the kid talk, for cripe's sake!
Can you tell I am about ready to throttle my BIL and his baby momma?
Ditto on the parents who smoke, drink heavily, leave their kids unattended, missuse carseats, basically safety issues.
But I also judged a parent I saw give her baby a sippy cup of diet Dr.Pepper.
I HATE it when parents whine and moan and complain about all the issues they have getting their kids to sleep when they've never established any kind of nighttime routine.
Ya THINK you're going to have problems??? Get off your lazy A*S and DO something about it instead of letting your toddler run wild until 11:30 or 12:00!!! If you're not going to, don't complain to me about it!
I honestly don't judge much unless I know the parents - then I feel like I know the situation and am much more judgy.
Also, I guess I also judge people who seem to hate being parents and seem to be incapable of just accepting certain aspects of being a parent and whining all the time. It's just life, deal w/ it!
I'm not talking about an occasional vent - but like constant hatred of being a parent. GET OVER it, deal with it and find a way to enjoy your life for what it is.
That of course could be applied to a lot of situations - not just parenting.
This is actually illegal and if she were to get caught those kids would have been taken away. I am an EI therapist and I went to a home and was knocking for like 5 min and I heard the 2 kids crying inside but noone was answering the door. I called the house from my cell and I got the answering machine so I tried the door thinking mom was dead or something happened and it was locked so I called 911 and needless to say they broke down the door and the 2 kids were home alone. Mom showed up about 5 minutes later as they were searching the house with a carton of cigarettes in a bag because she just walked down to the corner to get "smokes". They took the kids away and put them in foster care. I was there for 20 min total before she came so those kids were home for over 20 minutes without anyone. It is a safety hazard as what if the house caught on fire or they were broken into? That is horrible parenting and her kids should be taken away from her!
I "judge" people who totally disregard carseat rules and regulations because it's unlawful AND endangers the child. Even more that improper car seat usage, I hate to see children that are clearly NOT 12yo sitting in the front seat of a vehicle. I don't even know if I'm going to allow Zachary to sit in the front in April (when he turns 12) because he just doesn't seem big enough to sit up front yet....he sooooo thin.
I try not to judge anyone though and when others do, I usually play advocate to the other side with other possible reasons as to why the "offense" could be happening.
I judge parents who don't discipline (i.e. at the play area, when the mom sits on her ass and says things like "no, Jenny, we don't hit. No, no," but then does absolutely nothing about it. This would also be the type of Mom that stares at me aghast when I walk 3 steps away from my child when she's throwing a tantrum and tell her to "let me know when you're done," instead of giving in.
I judge parents who freak out over the idea of any sweet treat whatsoever. I gew up with kids like that. They were the ones gorging themselves on sweets whenever they got the chance. Don't feed your kid crap all day, but know that a cookie isn't going to scar them for life.
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I judge on car seats. Buying the after market products and not researching anything to do with car seats. I also hate when a family is doing something wrong with a car seat when its in the manual so if they read it they would know how to do it. Plus if you type in car seats on google you can come up with so much stuff and chat borads that have techs on them. Sorry as a cpst I notice everything wrong with car seats.
I also hate people that let children sit in the front seat when CA law says younger then 13 years old must be in the back seat.
I judge people who spank their kids in public. If you want to spank your child, that's your business, but don't do it in a public place. I think it's trashy. And it's always the people who spank as a FIRST resort. Like, no verbal warning, etc.
Most everything else I judge on, has more to do with my background as an SLP.
Thumb suckers, Paci's past the age of 1. (I love the kid who came to me to get a speech screen once and had to remove the paci to answer my q's - 3 year old), bottles after 18 months, and sippy after about 3. Blaire just turned two and I have been working on her drinking out of an open cup.
And I don't really judge that it's a "bad parent" thing, though.