Anyone else read Love and Logic?

shouldbeworkin

What did you think?  Do you use it a lot?  Do you think it works?  Does it continue to work?

 I really don't buy into a whole lot of the parenting techniques that I read about in books, but my DS is a toughie.  All of the usual stuff doesn't seem to work with him.  I finished this book today and have been using it a bit here and there - it seems to be working.    We're both much happier, I think.  But, I don't want to get my hopes up too high just yet.

hikerbeth

I really like the toddler stuff that I've read (Love and Logic Magic for the Early Years. . . or something like that).  Love and Logic was really devised for older kids and then they worked backwards to the younger ones.

I had an extremely tough month with my DD who had always been an "angel" but as soon as I started implementing love and logic parenting, she turned around within the week.

It's not a discipline technique, but a true parenting style. . . you have to use it all the time, but when you get used to it, it's very easy.

Of course, all kids react differently to different techniques, but I would definitely recommend trying it.

I'm not sure I'm on board with all the things they recommend for older kids, but the simple techniques for toddlers are great for us.

shouldbeworkin

Yep, that's the one I read.  I haven't read the other ones, so I can't comment on those.  I love how giving my control freak of a DS choices has made our lives so much easier.  Everything else I've tried works for awhile, but then stops.  I love how I'm more calm, enjoyed being with him today (for a change) and had enough energy left to do fun things with him.  I knew I needed a new approach b/c all of the conventional methods weren't working.   I just hope it continues to work. 

At least I know he comes by his control freakiness honestly.  And that is probably why the two of us tend to butt heads.  ;-)

hikerbeth

exactly.  That's exactly why it works with my DD.  If she can be in "charge" of practically everything then she's happy.

Time outs were never effective with her, but the more "love and logic" method of taking her to her room, leaving the door open, and telling her she can come out when she's done throwing her fit is SO effective for her.  We went from 90 minute-2 hour daily screamfests where I was so tempted to spank to a few little tantrums here and there.