jd0614

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Hi,

When my twins are born my ds will be around 3.  I saw that your ds/twins are about 3 months apart.  How did ds react when the babies came home and do you have any tips or advice?

jd0614

Hi!  Yes, my DS turned 3, 14 days after the boys were born. Aidan came home from the NICU on his birthday, so needless to say we felt a ton of guilt about not having a big party for him that day.  ANYWAY, I was soooo scared about how he would react - that he would feel left out, and that I wouldn't be able to love him/nurture him the way I did.  Turns out, he's been really good.  He loves his brothers to pieces - there are times if both DH and I are holding a baby, or feeding them - that he reverts back, and wants to be "fed", things like that - but for the most part, he's been great.  Always wanting to hug "the brothers", as he calls them.

We also got him some Thomas Trains as a coming home present FROM his brothers, I think that helped him realize they love him too!

One tip I can tell you has been great for us - ASK your DS for help as much as you can when you're with the babies.  Ask him to get you a diaper, or wipes - rinse out the bottles (my DS loves to rinse the bottles - he thinks he's washing them, but of course after he's done in the dishwasher they go!)  Also, one on one time with you or DH - we take him anywhere we go - quick trips to the store for milk, firewood, whatever.  He loves that.  Also, see if he wants to read to the babies.  Obviously, he can't read - but he can pretend read to the babies, my DS loves that too.

Forewarning - 3 is much more terrible than 2, IMO - and most of my friends who have/had 3 year olds.  It is very trying at times, especially with 2 babies in the house! 

Good luck,I'm sure he'll be great!