Baby on my brain!!!!????

Captaint

I'm newly married and I have some thoughts..... babies. My husband and I have also taken the time to pick names and dicuss it. Could we be ready or just thinking about it?? Help

mrstommyp

Well, there is really no way for me to tell you if you are ready or not.  I hope that by discussing "it" you are referring to the life change and responsibility having a baby will bring.  Simply discussing name options doese not make you ready.  Personally, my advice is since you just got married to put it off.  Enjoy being married for awhile, do as much stuff together as a married couple without kids.  Don't rush into having kids because it's "the next step."  Hope this helps....

His Beautiful Tulip

I disagree!.  Yes, you and your DH is the only two people who know if you are ready or not.  I just got married in September and I have been ready for years.  My DH and I have been together for 7 years.  We have had time to start careers and be just the two of us.  I think just becasuse you want to have children does not mean your life ends.  You will do the things now as a family.  Yes, you may have to miss out on a few but you can not have babies down the road, you can always have a babysitter or wait for a few years to do somthing.

aspears2

I agree with you. Why is it when people think of getting pregnant they think their lives are going to be over. That's how my husband is and granted we still are kinda young we have been together for close to 3 years now and have know each other since we were 5. I think I am finally getting it through his head that our life isn't going to change for the bad but for the better.

Captaint

I don't feel that having a baby will change us all that much maybe just our sleeping habits and some foods that I will like or totally hate. I feel that we are selfish in what we want and need. If it happens, it happens!! If we wait for the right time it could end up being the wrong time. The age 30 is coming up fast in my future and don't have much time with that special clock ticking... if you know I mean.

I would like to thank everyone who posted a message on my behalf. It's good to hear from others!!!

Tennille

JaznCamMom

I think it is up to the couple.  If you and your hubby are in agreement then I think you should go for it.  I can also understand the other side that says wait.  Sometimes it is good to get to spend some QT as just husband and wife.  Children are a wonderful blessing, but they do change your life and lifestyle.  We have moved about every two years since we got married.  Once we had dd who is now 3, we came back closer to our parents (in STL) so that we can have a sitter because we like to vacation.  So all in all I don't think I gave any advice, but hope you and DH discuss it and figure it all out!

MrsGibson07

Oh my goodness, I remember when I first got married all I could think about was babies. It didn't help that my dad would call every other day asking when he was getting grandkids! I never did stop wanting kids, but we moved away from our family for a year and that put a damper in our plans. After we moved back and spent time around my nephew we just knew we were "ready" (if you ever can be!). Its all up to you two.... and if you feel as though you have had enough time together and are ready for your relationship to change... of course for the better, but very different. BTW... I am at Lake of the Ozarks... finally someone close to me!

Hovie

His Beautiful Tulip:

I disagree!.  Yes, you and your DH is the only two people who know if you are ready or not.  I just got married in September and I have been ready for years.  My DH and I have been together for 7 years.  We have had time to start careers and be just the two of us.  I think just becasuse you want to have children does not mean your life ends.  You will do the things now as a family.  Yes, you may have to miss out on a few but you can not have babies down the road, you can always have a babysitter or wait for a few years to do somthing.

 ditto

alphaxi04

We decided to try right after the wedding but are still waiting for a BFP. We spent a lot of time "for ourselves" in the years we lived together and were wedding planning. My dad died 2 yrs ago so I am beyond ready. Seems to take longer for that BFP than most ppl think.