Baby #2 and our current house situation

cassidyhorn

Hi all. Like I said on the working moms board, baby #2 is due in June 09. I have 2 issues but one had a higher priority than the other. The higher priority is the nearly double cost of daycare and how I am going to afford that and what can I give up to make ends meet.

The second issue is that our current house has 3 bedrooms but 2 will be for the kids and the other for us. I am concerned about having to live in a somewhat cramped house when #2 arrives and when the kids grow up and we grow out of the house. I would like a larger house just like anybody but with the 2 daycare costs, I don't think its possible. Wait, I am sure it is not possible. I am saddened to think that I am stuck living this way and makeing my children suffer too until they are in full time school.  Anyone else feeling or felt my pain? Sometimes I just wonder if it would have been a wiser decision to have bought our house larger than this current one, make the larger payment then tried to adjust our lives to that budget before having children than to do what we did: buy a house big enough for 2 (3 bedrooms but that doesn't count), then having children later. Sometimes I think I chose the wrong path. What did you do?

august0605bride

I SAH, but we have a 2 bedroom house, so our kids -- gasp-- share a room.

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No one is suffering, and we have a gob of extra money b/c we have a small mortgage , and there's no room for the IL's to stay overnight when they visit

gracendantho26

I'm confused. You have a 3 bedroom house and you feel like it's too small for your family of 4? Maybe I am misreading this...

If it makes you feel any better my house is 1560sf wth 3 bedrooms and 1 bathroom :oP

emiliemadison

Are you for real? Your kids are going to suffer because you dont have a mansion? BWAHAHAHAHA! The only thing they're going to suffer for is having a moron for a mom. This has to be MUD.?

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emiliemadison

Oh, yeah. And my kids share a room, too. And they're not even the same sex!! GASP! And we only have ONE bathroom! The horror!

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I heard that houses are twice as big as they were fifty years ago and families are half the size.  I wouldn't call it suffering.  If having a bigger home is that important to you then you should make it a goal- it might not be a goal you can acheive until they are school age though but they don't care about a big house they care about a loving family.

ali-1411

We have two kids in a 900 sq foot 2 bedroom apartment.  I'll think somehow your kids will survive.

 

cassidyhorn

Oh no no no. I don't want them to suffer because I come from a large family that lived in a small house. Our house right now has 2 bedrooms on the main level and 1 in the basement. Counting the basement, we have approx 1600 sq ft.  I know what it was like when you get older and wanted your own room, privacy, etc. I'm just thinking about the future. As a parent, you just want something better for your children than what you got.

stacynikki

Honestly, we bought a bigger house right after DS was born and I really wish we'd stayed in our smaller house that was 1700 sq ft.  That we we could have had #2 by now and have no problems paying for 2 in daycare.  I guess the grass is always greener.  Living in a small house with 4 people...it's done without any problems every day.  You just make it work.

alisonada

While I sometimes wish we would have bought a larger house to begin with, because we could afford a bigger payment and the extra room would be very nice, we can't move because of the housing market. We'd have to pay money to sell our house which we just don't want to do.

We have 2 kids and 3 bedrooms (and 1 bathroom). All of our bedrooms are being used as bedrooms so we have no office, guest room, etc. But I don't feel that anyone is suffering, and I haven't resigned myself to never moving and having 2 teenagers living here.

cassidyhorn

Thanks Stacy and Alison. I regret using the word suffer but I guess it was a bad on my part. I didn't mean for it to be used in that context. Just want the best for my kids, that is all.