Is there a magic fix for tantrums?

LittleMamaB

I just don't know what to do. I know a lot of Miles' frustration is because he's not talking a lot yet, but his tantrums are getting awful. We were just ignoring the tantrums for a while, but they just got worse. Now I'm making him sit in "time out" when he throws a fit because he hits his head on things on purpose and I'm afraid he'll hurt himself.

But, since the episode today, I've realized that I really need to find a way to stop, or at the very least lessen, the tantrums. He could have really hurt Jonas. I swear, I wanted to spank him so badly, but I didn't because I know that won't help with tantrums. I just feel like I've done something wrong as a mom. Even though I know tantrums are normal, I feel like he has the worst ones in the world. 

Has anything worked for you in the tantrum department?

championmama

I was going to suggest ignore them, but I see that no longer works.  Blaire has just started this, and so far if I walk away, she stops. 

I have no other ideas, sorrry

hikerbeth

"Parenting with Love and Logic"  There's a book re: toddlers called "Love and Logic Magic for the Early Years" or something like that.  Turned my DD around in a week and she was NOT responding to time outs.

Might be worth a try. . . it's really a "parenting style" and not a discipline technique, but it saved my sanity.

amygdala

All kids are different, but ignoring seems to make mine worse. ?I find what really stops my ds's tantrums is to show (overly-dramatize) my concern for how frustrated he's feeling. ?I grab him & hug him & talk soothingly to him & really try to express that "I get it". ?It sounds corny, but it really helps him calm down. ?This is hit-or-miss for dd b/c she often does not want to be touched when she's mad/embarrassed/upset. ?Still, I at least keep talking to her & trying to figure out what I can do & that seems to help. ?Good luck!