Does it ever make you upset

sabloja

when people complain about being so pregnant and wanting their kid out? I would give anything to be that pregnant. I assume this is normal. I just think about this because my cousin is 38 weeks and wants to be induced. I understand wanting to meet your baby, but there is no reason for her to be induced. It just upsets me, because I dont think its fair. I did so well staying healthy and everything not gaining to much weight etc and she just doesnt care and she is having a full term baby and I had a preemie. Sorry I just had to vent. I know you girls will understand.

CashewsMom

Ugh, I know the feeling....

But mine is my brother's crackhead ex fiance just had a baby who was full term, and I know she was on crack the whole time....go figure....and now has a perfectly healthy baby....and no the baby is not my brothers

we found out she was cheating, and smoking crack after they broke up...I would have never tried to like her had I known of all the skeletons..

purplepuggles

yeah there was a whole thingy on 3rd tri about this a few days ago. everyone jumped all over me for being upset by it. i don;t think most people understand how you feel when your baby is born super early

TriciaJoy

Yes.

And it's one thing to complain about being miserable-that I get.
but I literally had a friend who visited Robbie in the NICU when he was still less than 2lbs and she got to 34w pregnant and was trying to figure out what she could do to send herself into labor.

My favorite NICU doctor actually brought this up to me while we were there.. asking if I had friends saying that sort of thing. I told him about my friend and he was like "Woah. That's the wrong thing to say at all, but REALLY the wrong thing to say to YOU."

 

jasonlovessara

YES!  when I was pg there was a girl who I work with who "wanted pre-e"!!  She had developed it with her first and her little boy was delivered quickly via c-section.  She told me the one day for lunch she had a big mac value meal with a double cheesburger and put extra salt on it all.... I couldn't talk to her for awhile.... I was doing everything I could to keep them in me and she said that her little girl would be fine at 35 weeks, so why not?  It still irks me! (she never did develop pre-e and went to about 39 weeks and the baby is fine)

hailie

I was blessed to have a very healthy, uneventful pregnancy (until the end of course)...so I can't say that I know what it feels like to be grossly uncomfortable during pregnancy. But I do know how unbelieveably heartwretching it is to leave the hospital without my baby.

It does irritate me when I hear people say they wish their baby would come out already, when they aren't even full-term. My polite response is to casually laugh it off while cursing them under my breath. My less polite response is to tell them to do a few days of NICU time & then tell me if they really want their baby born early. And it doesn't matter how many times I try to explain that feeling to people they just don't get it the way other preemie mommies do.

hollyoid7

Yeap I get so MAD....DH and I went eat out one nights with the boys (about 3 months ago) and a girl that DH went to school with and her DH was there..I was asking how everything is going..She has had a great pregnancy no problems at all (she was almost 35 weeks)..She said she was ready for thiis baby to come out..She was going to talk to the doctor about it that week..I was so pissed..Usually I don't say much..I said kinda mean..YOU KNOW IF YOU HAVE THE BABY HE WILL BE IN THE NICU..Well I what about 36 weeks..I pissed I told her you have no idea how hard it is having a baby in the NICU..It is the HARDEST thing we have ever went though. I was pissed the entire night..When we got in the car DH said I never saw you snap at someone like that...But he understood..

gymrat

Yes, it does bother me.

NotJustAnAuntie

Yup, I know exactly what you mean!

RRHsMom

It makes me mad when people assume their baby will be fine at 36 weeks or even more and so they might as well have them. ?There is a reason term is 40 weeks. ?I had my ds at 36 weeks although my ob thought I was 37.5 because he was so big. ?He was NOT ok and was on a vent for 12 day, almost went to a hospital 2 hours away for ECMO and we almost lost him several times. ?It was horrible to watch them have to bag your baby in the NICU while all you could do was sit there and pray. ?I really get upset when people say stuff like that and I do understand how it feels to be big and uncomfortable but like TricaJoy said, it is different saying your going to try to go into labor early bc your uncomfortable. ?

SuwaneeGirl

Well, some people don't think before they speak... and those weird pregnancy hormones! No one wants to be uncomfortable during pregnancy, but they don't realize the heartache and fear you feel when your baby is in the NICU and not at home in the bassinet next to you. It doesn't make me upset, it just makes me think they are rude. One of my best friends said something like that to me right before she had her baby. Our babies were supposed to be about two-three weeks apart. People just don't think.