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Staying focused on/enjoying the present
Hi, everyone.
I'm wondering how all of you are doing staying focused on the present while TTC?
DH and I have a great life together, and I'm a happy and lucky woman. Yet, for part of every day, I find myself getting too far ahead with the baby thoughts.
Example:
Last night, DH and I were talking about names. Well, hello! We've just started all of this, and we have no idea when or whether we'll get a BFP.
I think to a certain extent, dreaming and hoping and wishing are natural and good. I am just concerned about letting myself get too caught up in such thoughts so early on, when this could take a long, long time.
Anyone have any thoughts to share on this?
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Re: Staying focused on/enjoying the present
It's hard to not think about it and stay focused on your life.
I've had a pretty stressful year with my mom being sick (getting better, thank goodness) and my m/c.
It's hard to not get wrapped up in the 'woe is me' but I remind myself everyday that while this part (TTC) is really frustrating all in all I have a very blessed life. I have a great life, great husband, friends, family, cats. My mom is in remission and has responded well to chemo and for that I'm thankful.
It's also hard to not get negative but I try to turn it into a positive 'I can get pregnant and will again and will one day have a healthy baby'. It's not easy by any means but it's better than thinking negative.
Just stay positive, focus on the good things you have and one day you will have a baby.
Caribou, you have had one rough year. I'm so glad your mom is getting better, and I hope 2009 brings you a lot of joy!
Thank you for your thoughts.
That is sweet of you.
I'm embarassed now because I wasn't looking for sympathy but thank you.
I have no advice. I obsess about it all the time and have since before we even started TTC. It doesn't stop me from living in the present and being grateful for everything I have. It just means that getting pregnant is always on my mind- always.
I'll be reading the answers to see if anyone has any good tips for not obsessing. DH really wants me to relax about it. He hates anything that makes me cry and nothing brings on the tears like AF.
So, it sounds like we're all in the same boat then.
Well, it's a big boat, and the passengers are friendly.
Well, DH and I have been ttc for quite some time now to no avail...for me, it's important not to dwell on what's not going right with my life, which at times is a real challenge, and to keep myself busy. In the time that we've been ttc I've graduated from school twice, built a new house, gotten 2 new dogs, and am starting my master's in January...it's been a busy few years without thinking soley about ttc...and hitting the books again in a couple of weeks should keep me busy for a while longer again. Good luck to you and Happy Holidays!
Kris