Anyone 'telling' early due to holidays?

firemansflame

DH's family is coming to town for Christmas.  They are getting here on the 24th and we're celebrating DH's side of the family Christmas on the 27th.  I will be exactly 6 weeks on the 27th so I'm very nervous about telling people.  I do want to take advantage of the fact that they will be "here" so that we don' t have to tell them over the phone but I am afraid that the cat will slowly get let out of the bag if they know (2 of DH's brothers and a sister in-law do live in town).

How are you ladies that are "newly" pg balancing "telling" and keeping it quiet until you're further along over the holidays?

Smudges*Mom

We told our immediate family right away (at 4 weeks).  Having done IVF, they all knew what was going on. . . I wanted their support, regardless, so we told.

Do what you feel is comfortable.  Its different for every couple.  And, congrats!

Mr.&MrsS

We are telling our Mom's and my Dad on Christmas. We dont plan to tell anyone else until we are out of the first tri. So we will just ask them not to tell anyone. We did this last time I was pregnant and they were able to keep the secret, so I hope we are safe again!

JPW2006

I have a blog that several friends and family members frequently visit, so there are no secrets.  Lots of people knew as soon as my blood test was confirmed.  This was IVF#3, so most of our family and friends knew and have been a huge source of support for us.  Good luck!

tina623

I did last year.  I was 9 weeks but wanted to tell everyone on christmas so bad, so I did. Family agreed to keep in under wraps until after the holidays and I officially told everyone at 13 weeks.

vilicious

Smudges*Mom:

We told our immediate family right away (at 4 weeks).  Having done IVF, they all knew what was going on. . . I wanted their support, regardless, so we told.

Do what you feel is comfortable.  Its different for every couple.  And, congrats!

Ditto this. We still have all of DH's friends who don't know yet and we'll be spending NYE with them, so we'll tell them then! I'll be 13 weeks even on NYE.

skoorbnibor

I never considered it telling early.... We told our parents the day of the beta and I had told my sister at 5dp5dt, everyone else found out at about 5 weeks, via phone, email or in person

I think it all depends on how you feel. I looked at it as if there was a loss, would I never tell tell, and my answer for me was of course I would tell them, so I wanted them to be able to celebrate with us, if it was for even a week... 

Shannie1217

do what YOU want to do!!  With us, everyone knew we were doing IVF, so they found out pretty much right away- the only people I haven't told yet are work people. This is such an exciting time NOT to share it with the ones you love! Good Luck!

veggiechick120

we told on thanksgiving, i think i was 5 weeks then. most of our close friends know because the knew about ivf.. everyone else will get told prob after new years

iluvtom

You have to do what you feel comfoetable with. I am not telling anyone until I either show or am out of the 1st tri if I can make it that far. Haha..I may be a house sooner than that! I need to know that this is a sticky pregnancy first. good luck

Dontblink

Just remember you can't jinx your pregnancy. Telling people will not cause a miscarriage. If God forbid something was to  happen you would prob. need their support anyway. I would enjoy the holidays and make it special by telling them!

aniticipation

We're debating over telling my IL's over Christmas.  Problem is, they don't know how to keep their mouths shut (in terms of telling people and thinking their opinions and suggestions are welcome). So, we may not and try and save ourselves from a few months of unwelcome comments.  Seriously, my SIL was so obnoxious during our wedding planning, I am nervous about how many ways she will try and interfere once she knows. Ugh.

trilady2

Well, my mom knew we were doing IVF and she kept asking and asking in a round about way. So I told my mom. Then she begged to tell my dad and sister. So my whole immediate family knows.

BUT - aside from the internet, a couple of friends who live VERY far away, and one friend in town who really helped us out during our IVF - no one knows. Very few people, compared to when we've done IVF in the past, know. We are keeping it very quiet until 13 weeks - my ILs are nuts and the whole world will know in 30 seconds if we tell them.

For a bit, I was thinking we were being too cautious. But then we got some so/so news at our first u/s and then two ladies I know just had early first tri miscarriages. So as much fun as it would be to announce at Christmas, we're not. We're going to wait to see how this all plays out before we rile up the in laws.

 

chrissyt27

I had always hoped to wait 12 weeks, but at Christmas I will be 10. Our 2nd well 3 ultrasound, but 2nd with baby will be 12/23. I will feel better then. It's important to DH we tell his parents on Chrstmas, well that weekend. My mom and sisters already know, but will my dad, brother and Aunt. I would like to keep it a secret a few more weeks, but my dad and aunt dont keep secrets, and I doubt his mom could either. So I guess we will be calling people that weeked.  I would rather tell people than have others share my news.