Here's a doozie for ya!

HisBetterHalf

My ILs anniversary is on my birthday, which is Dec 23rd.  They live about 70 miles away from us.  They got married for the wrong reason (PG with DH) and have been miserably married for 30 years this year.  FIL is planning an anniversary party for themselves on the night of the 23rd.  He just told us about it this week.  It will be held at a fancy restaurant near their house.  DH talked to his mother shortly after getting the email from FIL and said that he was sorry but we would not be able to make it for a few reasons.. 1) its my birthday and we already have plans, 2) its a 150 mile round trip, 3) we will be driving there for a 3 day visit the day after Xmas, 4) we don't have a babysitter for DD (my sister is going to watch her for 2 hours while DH and I go out to dinner for my bday but this is her first time babysitting DD so we want to be close by).

So MIL says, ok well we'll miss you but I understand (even though she's bitter about it which comes across in her tone).

Two days later DH calls to tell his mom something and FIL answers.  FIL says, "hey I didn't hear from you about our anniversary.  Are you coming?"  So DH explains so him that we are not coming for reasons above.  FIL says, "well I only have ONE 30th anniversary you know."  DH says, "I know and I'm sorry but its just not feasable."  FIL is bitter and will hold this grudge.

Last night MIL calls.  "So are you sure that there is no way that you can make it to our anniversary?"  DH, "yes mom, we already had this conversation."  MIL "Well you could always just bring Brinley with you and then spend the night and drive back in the morning (Xmas Eve).  No one else is bringing kids, but you could."

Umm, WTF. These people are on crack.  It drives me crazy.  The entire reason that they're having an anniversary party and inviting other is because they can't stand to be alone together.  

pookie2005

They're nuts...I wouldn't go either.  That is very last minute to make a 150 mile roundtrip for one party!  Especially when you are already doing it on the 26th!  They need their heads checked.

DaiLyght

That's just crazy. I really hate it when people get so wrapped up in their own personal bubble that they can't grasp the concept of what other people have to deal with. It's not like you can just hop in the car, drive 15 minutes and stay for a short visit. Things like that need more time and planning and better orchestration. I would suggest stressing to them that *had you had more notice* you might have been able to make accommodations.

kittycarr

I wouldn't go either.  It's a little ridiculous to for them to keep dragging it out.