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pookie2005

As some of you may know, I lost my dad early this year to suicide.  We moved in with my mom.  Not good.  We are moving in January, yay!

SInce my dad's death, my brother who has always had depression issues has had a bad time.  His girlfriend left him, a flood ruined his basement apartment.  He ended up attempting suicide as well a few months ago.  We got him committed and he was in the hospital for a week.  He is also an alcoholic.  He was getting help for a while but has stopped.  He is still doing pretty well but we are always talking to him and trying to convince him to get counseling so he stays good.

Since my dad died, his side of the family has almost disowned us...that's what it seems like.  We never hear from them, almost as if they figure they don't need to deal with us anymore now that he is gone.  Also, we feel like they blame us for his death.  My grandmother is especially guilty of this.  She has come right out and said that she will no longer step into our house because it's too hard and she thinks we're too needy.  (we asked for help when we got flooded...that's it)

We decided to stay home for x-mas, we usually go to her house.  Now she's upset.  She wants us to come over...except my brother.  She's pissed that he tried to kill himself and that he refuses to get help.  So are we but is that any way to treat your own grandson?  Does she think it will help him to be left out of Christmas celebrations?  He has never done anything to her or in her house to warrant this sort of reaction.  He is always respectful and loves her!

So I put my foot down and said that if she wants to spend Christmas with us, she has to come to our house, difficult or not.  I refuse to cater to that sort of attitude and will not spend Christmas knowingly shunning my own brother!

 Congrats if you made to the end!  Discuss.

Brideofranken

I am so sorry. I have lost a few friends to suicide, and I have a really angry feeling when I hear about it..I think it is so selfish and devastating..I am so sorry your family has to deal with all of this- and your grandmother sounds like she is choosing not to deal with it...

good for you, though- it sounds like you are the one who is dealing the best with what you have to work with...ugh.

 

Angela814

I'm sorry she's making the holidays so difficult.  It seems to me that as people get older, they get crazier.  My grandma can be funny sometimes, and my mom swears she was never like that when she was younger.

karen6784

I don't have any advice for you.  Your brother and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  I hope that things get better quickly.

Dougsgirl4ever

No advice just Hugs to you & your family & stick to your guns with Grandma.