Nanny Share Q,

smersing

Hi,

I work part-time and when I am at work I leave my son with a nanny and with a friend's 12mo old son.  The other boy, J, is sometime aggressive and sometimes crawls all over, hits, and tries to bite. I am worried that my son will pick up this aggressive behavior.  He's a sweet, quiet baby, but I already see him starting to pick up some of the bad behavior.

Should I end the nanny share?  The nanny is very good about trying to discipline J, so eventually he should hopefully outgrow that behavior.  I'm worried about hurting my friendship with the other mom, and the fact that the nanny will lose 1/2 her pay if I leave the share.  She would need to leave too in order to make enough $.

It seems so complicated.. but I think leaving is the best thing to do for my DS.  I'd appreciate any advice or thoughts.. TIA!

*sparky*

What will you do if you end the nanny share?  If you put him in DC you are likely to have the same problems, only with kids you don't know.  A lot of kids go through a hitting / biting / aggressive phase - it's pretty normal.

IMO, as long as the nanny is addressing it and your DS is not being hurt, then I would try to ride it out.  Does your friend also try to address her DS's aggressiveness, so it's not just the nanny who is trying to stop the behavior?

 

RCH151

I completely agree with Sparky...you are going to run into other kid's behavior issues eventually - it seems like this is a pretty controlled atmosphere and the behavior is being handled. 

RCH151

on another note...I also live in Chicago!  do you live in the city?  We do and we also do a nanny share--full time though.

goofyteacher

I agree that you will run into problem behaviors anywhere. ?With that being said I also noticed that you said the boy was 12 months old. ?At this point there is not a discipline technique that would be developmentally appropriate (possibly redirection) accept they have no concept about why you are doing that. ?This child is to young to intentionally be aggressive or do anything that would be considered a problem behavior, developmentally he is not able to do that. ?So it is really a matter of understanding there is not intentions behind it, he is not biting to hurt but instead more than likely teething or in a stage of development that is learning orally. ?Same goes for hitting and crawling over. ?In order for a behavior to be aggressive there must be intention behind it.