My sad adoption related musing..

Erin Mary Ackerman

I am in India.  The last time I was in India, I was at the side of the road by a handicrafts fair/markets and a woman approached me and put a baby in my arms.   She wasnted me to take the baby.  Now this is a common trick to get money here, and I thought nothing of it, but the woman started walking away crying.  She asked for no money.

I got a boy to translates and she wanted me to care for her daughter (Suchitra, sweet, sweet baby Suchitra) as she couldn't afford to feed her, was pregnant, and wanted a son. 

I think about Suchitra all the time.  I had TTTC and there were nights when I would just cry thinking about Suchi.  How badly I wanted to make her life less hungry and cold.  God, I still miss her.  I held her for two hours and took her and her mother inside the fair for some food.  I gave her mom all the money I had (only like $5) and they left.  But not before her mom tried again to get me to take her.  She kept saying USA USA.  She wanted her baby to have a better life, and can  you imagine the desperation of a woman offering her baby to a stranger.  I can only think they must have been starving and the mother was trying to save her. 

So anyway, for the first time in two years I came back to India and drove by the fair.  I sat up straight and my eyes were pealed for Suchi and her mom.  She'd be what, two and a half /three now?  Oh it would be so great to see her.

I so so badly want to adopt Suchi.  I still ache for her.  I know the situation wasn't right, and I could never take her away from a mother who loves and wants her so much, but I wonder what I couild do.

sigh...

Mrs.Johnson

That is truly heart-breaking.  That makes me sad for those women and their children and us who want children and cannot have them.  That must have been hard for you. *hugs*

candm

Gah, I'm crying now... I know exactly what you mean. And to be honest, the same story applies to so many millions of orphans including our beautiful son and daughter whom we are still waiting to bring home. A large portion of orphans in Haiti were turned over by their parents to the orphanages, not b/c their parents didn't love them, but simply b/c they were too poor to feed them. It's heartbreaking and I think the biggest condemnation of those of us who are better off. Poor mothers of the world; imagine the sorrow and heartbreak!

I hope your little Sachi is a happy, healthy toddler.

akiernan

Brahim, as an adopted child, this post has brought me to tears.  I would so love to be able to adopt a child to give them the same oportunity as I was given. 

You're a good person and a good mommy.