2yr old sleep issues, please help....I am so tired!

jaredswife

DS is almost 2 and does not sttn.  He actually wakes multiple times a night.

He has a full size bed in his room.  He sleeps there until after we go to bed, then once he wakes up he comes into our room to sleep with us for the rest of the night.  But, even in our bed he wakes up alot and takes up a lot of space. 

We are all so tired, all the time.  And with baby #2 on the way we really need to get DS sleeping before the baby arrives. 

What can we do to help him sleep better?  Any tips or advice would be great, I will try anything!

 

MelandJeff

OMG, I could have written this post word for word. Except I am not PG.

I hope you get some good answers, I have been sleep deprived for 2 years. I am tired!

Temp86398625009737

I guess we are mean, she is still in her crib, but unless she is sick/teething/pooped, we have never go back in her room to get her out once the doctor said to let her cry it out after a fre months old.  She now hardly wakes, basically puts herself to bed..tells us she is ready, and falls back asleep after waking.  Can you try tough love?

KoriBrett

If this is sudden and new, check for 2yr molars.  If it's been ongoing, *hugs* I have no idea.  Sorry.

DevonPow

What happens if you bring him back to his bed instead of having him stay with you?

Jaylea

We just talked about this with our pediatrician.

DD knows how to go to sleep on her own - she does it every night when I put her in the crib and walk out of her room. But she also knows we'll come get her when she wakes... b/c we do. She's got us played.

We have to do CIO I think but she's sick right now so not for another week or two.

jaredswife

DevonPow:

What happens if you bring him back to his bed instead of having him stay with you?

Sometimes he will go back to sleep easily if we just take him right back.  But other times he throws a big fit and wont even stay in h is bed.  Mostly that is just hard for us because we are so tired already and dont want to fight with him over it. 

So, I do understand that alot of it is our fault for not enforcing the things we want.

ilovemygirls

Yes, with #2 on the way you definitely need to get this taken care of!  Since he is already in a bed & able to get out, I don't know that CIO would work.  One thought I have is that I remember seeing on Supernanny a technique she used with bringing them back into their bed.  I know I've seen a book by her, so you could probably google.  However, this is not going to come easy & you have to be prepared to get even less sleep before it is resolved. You & DH also very much have to be on the same page to do whatever it takes & not give into the meltdowns he's going to throw out there.  It's going to be hard, but honestly- so worth it in the end.  Best of luck. 

marchbaby

I have had two horrible sleepers, I know how hard sleep deprivation is!  We had to do cry it out with both my kids.  After a few days of cry it out they were sleeping through the night.  Then they'd sleep through but get up between 4-5 am. My oldest seemed to break that habit on his own, my youngest we just figured out that one longer nap a day and going to bed a half hour later did the trick for him. This week he started sleeping from 8:30pm to 7am!  Soooo happy!

Good luck!

Angela814

This was DD at 2 years.  She woke to nurse multiple times.  It took about a month to night wean her.  Now at 2 1/2 years she goes to sleep in her bed (but one of us must be lying in bed with her until she falls asleep).  Around 2:30 am she walks over to our room, and I pull her up into bed.  She goes right back to sleep and then wakes a few times from 4-6am asking for mommy milk, gets upset when I tell her no, and finally goes back to sleep until about 6:30-7am.

I'm not sure what to do to make things better.

neesernicole

there is something going on with this age right now.  i have *heard* and this may not be the case for all but...it takes 3 days to break a habit.  if that can be your goal - 3 nights of sheer hell, i bet/hope he will get it down.  it's amazing how much a little toddler can take up so much space in your bed.

Zenya

I would just keep him in his room.  I wouldn't let him CIO but I'd not let him come into your room.  Just keep putting her back in his own bed. 

Don't worry - it'll work out. I will say that I tried to get DS to sleep by himself when he was 2 and I abandoned it after one nap.  Then I tried again right before I had my baby and it went great.  He was about 26 mos I think.  Sometimes it just takes time. 

 

eta:  DS has been sick recently and has been coming into our bed again.  It's actually fine with him and the baby.  I thought it would be a PITA but it's not a big deal.  I get that you might not want that though.