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CaliJenny

I just found this board and after my 3 day waiting period to post I can finally talk to you all!! 

Background:  I am 33 yrs old and pregnant with twin girls.  They are due on January 4th.  These are our first children and we're not sure if we'll try again for more and risk multiple multiples.  lol  They were conceived through our 2nd IVF. 

 

We've worked out who is going to take care of the babies after I go back to work, my Mom.  She has done the same for my sister and brother's children and they have paid her a small salary ($20 per day).  It covers her gas, etc.  I told DH of the amt and he flipped saying that she should do it for free.  He wants his mom to do it because she'd do it for free.  Problem is she has other family obligations and is not the most reliable person in the world.  I just see this as not working out.  I suggested she do 1 day a week to start off with to see how she does and if she stiffs us then she's out because I need someone dependable.  Not to mention that I'm not thrilled that my babies will have 3 caregivers and schedules will be messed up.  Any advice on this? or similiar stories?  I just can't believe that this is causing us to fight so much and they aren't even born yet!!!

 thanks ladies!!! 

april062604

congrats on your pregnancy. ?try not to get overwhelmed with the details now since the babies are not even here yet. ?welcome to the board. IMO, the deal with your mom sounds great! ?

chocolatechip06

$20/day for twins is very reasonable.  I don't think your mom should watch the kids for free especially if you are following the same routine as with your brother/sister etc.  Grandparents are great, but you don't want to take advantage of her willingness to help you out, especially if she is reliable and I know she will love your kids.

Mrs.H98

No advice about the family front. Concerned about three different scheduled is a good concern, but try not to stress. Welcome and congrats on the girls!

pea-kay

congrats! wow, you're almost done! i think the deal with your mom sounds fair, more fair than not giving her anything. i hope you can work it out.

doubleblessings08

Congrats on you girls they will be here soon! I think the $20 a day is very reasonable. That is the typical price per week for daycare for one child. Hope you and you H can work it out.

JChandlerJBates

Welcome to the Board