So when it comes to names, My husband doesn't really have any ideas or much input... other than hes adamant a boy must be a ''Fourth''.
My husband is the Third, and wants to also name his son this, keeping the tradition going.
Sure he told me this years ago he wanted this, but I didn't think he would be so inflexible about it.
I have come to absolutely hate the idea. It drives me completely insane.
I hate the idea of calling my child the same name as my husband, and any nicknames we have come up with playing off the ''Fourth" concept, just arent working for me.
On top of that, We are also possibly looking at twins, (we will know next week.) and he said that even if it was two boys, he still wanted to name the first one this.
However, that is worse to me than just naming a single boy after it. I feel like it would look like we were playing favorites with boy 1, naming him after his Dad.
While the second boy would have a totally unique name. I just foresee that becoming a weird dynamic.
I am willing to be potentially flexible when dealing with one boy, but im absolutely not naming 1 half of 2 twin boys this.
Names are such a big deal to me and i'm sure the pregnancy hormones are not helping, but im just wondering how other woman have dealt with a situation like this,
Also if anyone had any fourth nicknames that they really loved, and definitely opinions on if the twin thing is as weird as i think it is, or not.
Re: ''The Fourth''
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Marriage: 4/2008
Baby Carriage #1: 5/2012
Baby Carriage #2: 1/2016
Use your veto rights. Compromise on a name you both like. He's going to have to meet you in the middle.
I don't love the name he picked out but I'm ok with it (was on my 1st list) & it fits our son.
Traditionally, unless you are royalty everyone moves up a spot when someone in the line passes. The suffixes traditionally don't on go birth certificates and are only for social purposes. I think now a days a lot of people do put them on birth certificates though. The idea is to avoid having V VI VII etc.
OP, I suggest using your hubby's name as the boys middle name and choosing something you agree on for the first. If you have twins, you could do his first name for one boys middle name and his middle for the other boy, then he gets both names and you get a first name you like.
That said, my brother was the fourth and they stopped the tradition when their son was born. They named him after our deceased cousin and used my brother's FN as baby's MN. My SIL pretty much hates our family, so we were all surprised she even agreed to those names.
It'll be a hard decision either way because one of you is going to be very upset. I would see what sex you are dealing with to discuss it further. Best of luck!
Naming kids is so hard! I hope you guys can come to an agreement you are both happy with!
I'm not sure what is with all these domineering men who seem to think they're the only ones with veto power on naming a baby you made together, but it's freaking annoying. You don't see women on here posting about how they're just flat out ignoring their husband's desires and opinions on the subject. There are ways for your H to honor his dad without waking all over you, be just needs to suck it up and compromise. Maybe I'm being brutal, but I'd stop pandering to a husband, and all his boohoo-wahh antics, who refused to respect my wishes in what I think is a pretty important milestone.
He needs to acknowledge that you have a right to an opinion and when all is said and done, the name needs to be agreed on by both of you, even if one of you doesn't get what they ultimately want.
If it were me, I would ultimately give in and make the baby the forth because it means so much to him and I like tradition. But with the way he has changed the argument, he would need to recognize that you have strong feelings about the matter and you have every right to have feelings on the matter.
Now as for the name, what about giving the boy your husbands name, but coming up with a separate nickname/term of endearment not related to the IV. I personally have known multiple Chips, buzz's, Kips, Kit's, etc. that have more old fashioned passed down formal names.
While I get it, and am so sad that he lost her so young, I don't want to name my children after anyone. I want them to have their own names to be unique to only them. Besides, it would bum my mom out if I used his mom's name and never used hers, or my grandma's name who passed away when I was 16, who I adored. And besides. I think it's kind of morbid.
Like you said, y'all go against the grain and don't see like the type to follow in line. I hope you can get through to your husband and that you can come to some kind of compromise.
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Baby Boy #2 EDD 11/4/18
And it was a little harsh to make fun of DH for getting upset that a belonging of his dads broke. Sometimes everyone gets upset over seemingly trivial things, especially during intense emotional times like pregnancy.
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