Whose to say they didn't use a condom? They are not 100% effective either. It's rather obvious that having an abortion is not easylizChesnut said:No regrets....do it again....? Maybe they should wear a condom next time instead. A little easier isn't it?
Re: Anyone knows how to deal with mixed emotions ? Abortion and keeping ?
That's just the one side though. As the above poster said, a pregnancy center can give you more information.
glad i found someone else on board ^_^
Also, just want to add *yay social workers* (I am one myself)! I love that our board seems to have quite a few!!
OP, You didn't mention any of your reasons why you were considering this option and you are not obligated to share if you are not comfortable. I would just make sure what you're feeling isn't just emotions from pregnancy hormones. You might want to consider talking to a therapist to cross out depression or something. If your concerns are financial, see what assistance is available in your area.
Hope you do find peace and happiness in whichever path you choose
That was my impartial advice, and now a bit of partial advice, if its ok with you. I don't have experience with abortion, but I do have experience with an unplanned pregnancy that occured at what I considered the worst time. I just could not see how it would all work out. But...it did work out, in ways I couldn't have imagined. And my daughter is beautiful and amazing and the greatest joy. I wish I could go back and tell myself not to worry, and let myself know it was all going to be ok.
Also, we tried on each decision for a couple of days and saw how it sat. That made things so much clearer.
Good luck! It is not a nice place to be in.
It isn't fair for people to sway with guilt
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
I am still convinced that I was not ready for a child at that time. However, what I did not realize at that time, was although I was only a few weeks, I was already a mother. I was somehow attached to this growth inside of me that I didn't even want. It wasn't until afterwards that I realized how much I unknowingly loved the my child to be, how he/she was depending on me. There was instant regret. I couldn't look at any baby or pregnant woman for a year or more without becoming sad. He had regret as well. It took a toll on our relationship.
I finished school, started my career, and now I'm in a place where I'm totally elated to be 9W pg right now. And again I already feel like a mother, every bite of food i eat, every doctor i see, has to be the best! I've been anxiously waiting but planning with purpose to become pregnant again. However the what ifs of my 1st pregnancy still remain and I know that if I would have known what I know now, I would not have made the decision to terminate my gift.
Well, you do come across as high and mighty. Having an abortion IS dealing with the consequences, and you have ABSOLUTELY NO SAY in what the consequences are to someone else. Many people have abortions and don't suffer with their decision, but way to lay on the unnecessary guilt.
OP: Nobody else can make this decision for you. I wish you clarity in the weeks ahead and peace that whatever decision you make is the right one.
BreezieBre you took the words right out of my mouth
Agreed. I was on birth control when I concieved