I had always planned on waiting 3 years into marriage and then having children, but then life happened and we just did not have the money and DH wanted to finish up college. Now at 4 1/2 years into marriage I hit my limit. It started then though. A year ago I started running to get the perfect body before baby. This past week I reached my baby making weight goal. I started at 132 and am now at 118. But despite wanting a baby for a very long time and occasionally crying over AF, I did have a moment that made it impossible to wait anymore. I missed a pill one day and left for work, so I couldn't take it for close to 24 hrs( I didn't know anything about cycles then). I thought I had implantation bleeding and my boobs were sore and I thought I was pregnant. My DH and I were both so excited. When it came time to pee on a stick... it was negative. I cried my eyes out and something changed. We knew it wasn't an ideal time but we could make it work and I wanted it no matter how hard it would be. This month is my first off BCP and I am temping and charting. Currently CD 12, we are abstaining from fertile days at this point and plan on trying in September( baby would be due after DH graduates).
What made you know for sure that this was it? What month did you start and why?
Re: How did you know you were ready?
We closed last week, we picked the month December to start trying and now we will just settle in.
Our 3.5 yr old has been ready for a sibling for awhile and we are hoping to make sure we can give that to him.
A weird hesitation I have is that I work PT as a diving instructor, and though I know kids should come first it will be pretty hard to give up that chunk of my life for a year plus. I set some goals for myself in my dive career this year that I am having fun hitting and am feeling more ready to put it on pause when the time comes. I realize that may seem super random but it is what it is
Now, I'm feeling more ready as I talk about names, parenting, etc. with my H and start to envision a baby fitting into our lives.
@HookEmNelson So glad you closed on the house. That's great news! DH and I need to wait til we buy a house until he gets a job. It is possible that I may deliver in a different state lol crazy I know. I try not to think about it. We both plan on staying here. Especially since my job will pay for me to get my masters so I will be starting this fall..( part time, so it will take 3 years... yuck). I'm envious of people who have set down roots. We plan on buying a home after baby is 6 months but who knows what hand life will deal lol. We have learned that you can plan whatever you want but it doesn't mean it will happen.
@als1982 That's a pretty big financial goal, that's great! DH andd I save about 5k a yr and then emergencies happen haha. But, he is in school right now with GI bill assistance and its only part time so our finances change every 4 months. Saving permanently is kind of impossible atm. Sept is the goal so that money will be more consistent once baby arrives. Daycare is expensive here its about 830 dollars a month... hefty price
I will be honest, that first year to about a year and a half was a test for us and our communication. I'm also mentally preparing to breastfeed again. 14 months of that and I needed a break from a nightly latch and breast pump.
We got this!
The big issue with diving is that it's not allowed while PG at all. Not even a little early in pregnancy. There's just not enough research about how being underwater could affect the developing baby. Once the baby is born the expense and time involved cause many moms and even dads to quit. My H is supportive of me keeping going, however, so hopefully I'll make it work.
This. If you were a runner before, there's no reason to stop unless medically directed to by your doctor (though they'll encourage you to keep it up if it isn't impacting you or the baby negatively). I've never heard of "overheating" your baby, though. I know you should avoid hot baths or hot tubs, but running shouldn't get you that hot. FWIW, I'm not a runner, but do work out with a trainer that includes boxing and other activities. I continued to work out until the day before I went into labor with baby #1. #2 I worked out throughout as well and even went hiking 4 days before she was born.
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
@Xstatic3333 I used to be worried that a baby would mess everything up. Somewhere it changed. When I was a pre-K teacher all the moms warned me that kids ruin your marriage... it seemed daunting
@HookEmNelson I look forward to it soo much.
@lavenderbrown1018 I definitely don't want to TTC without my DH being ready, but I'm very ready so it's going to be a struggle haha!
@HookEmNelson love your response lol! Get ALL the husbands on board
At first, it all seemed insane and torturous and quite honestly, it scared the crap out of me....but one day, it just suddenly seemed so worth it to get to be a mother and watch DH be a father.
I stopped thinking about (dreading) all the things that came along with pregnancy and birth and starting feeling like it was totally and completely worth it and that none of it seemed that bad. It no longer terrified me. It just clicked one day that I was willing and able to be a part of it all.
That's how I knew I was ready!
Baby fever is in full force, but we're waiting for Spring 2016 to start TTC (sometimes patiently...sometimes, impatiently)!