I am very new to this whole baby blogging stuff, so bear with me.. Anyways, my husband and I are both young, I am 20 and he is 23, almost 24. Now before you start jumping on our case about being too young, let me tell you a bit about the two of us. We have been together since high school, almost 5 years now (I married my high school sweetheart in Dec 2014!). My husband is active duty Air Force and is currently in school to get his degree. I may be 20, but I live as if I am 25-30 (that is not to be offensive to anyone). I graduated high school with my AA and have two more semesters until I have my bachelors. Eventually, I plan to attend PA (physician assistant) school. I have always been very school oriented. Neither my husband nor I are into partying and doing what most people our age do; in other words we're very responsible. I work as a nanny for the most incredible 5 year old boy; I've worked with kids since I was 10 from babysitting to being a nanny to working in a daycare. In high school, I took a 3 year early childhood class that taught me so much about kids and even motherhood. My husband and I own a very nice house, have now for almost 2 years. We have 3 fur babies (all dogs). We have incredible health and dental insurance (military). Our bills are always paid, we are fantastic at budgeting, and both of our credit scores are really good. We own two cars that are both less that 3 years old. I'm sure I am leaving something out but you get the point. I'm not trying to "brag" or be narcissistic, I am just trying to explain where we are in life and give you an overview of our lifestyle because I know we are young to be having a baby (trying to at least) and I don't want to be seen as "that young couple who are irresponsible and popping babies out". We were going to wait until I graduated to start trying, but we recently went through a tragic life experience that made us want to try now (I'm very close to graduating anyways). My mother-in-law unexpectedly passed away in April of this year at only 44 years old. We still do not know why she passed, we're still waiting for the toxicology report to come back. After this, we realized life is too short and things like this happen. Now our kids will grow up never knowing one of their grandmothers and we just don't want to wait any longer. Life can come and go with the blink of an eye, and it can be very tragic, as it was for us. So long story short, we are steady on our feet and have all the necessities (house, insurance, transportation, family support, knowledge, educational backgrounds, etc.) to raise a healthy, happy baby.
More about conceiving... I came off of birth control in March after being on it for about 7 years (I was on it at a young age to control my menstrual cycles and cramping). March and April I had a normal period (23rd of each month) . My period missed in May and so far in June. The past couple of days I've been feeling like it's going to come (abdominal twinges/cramps), but nothing yet.. I have taken a couple pregnancy tests but they all came back negative. The last one I took was June 12 (I think) and it was negative. So, I am almost positive my period hasn't shown because of coming off the oral bc (which was ortho tri-cyclen lo). I recently started taking prenatal vitamins (vitafusion prenatal gummies and Nature Made prenatal multi +DHA). It's been frustrating because once we decided we were going to actively start trying, my period doesn't show for two months! But once it shows, we are definitely going to be getting busy! Any advice or tips on conceiving or if you've gone through anything like what I am dealing with, a no-show period, please comment!
1) If you're not already temping, get on that and buy a copy of Taking Control of Your Fertility. 2)Try not to symptom spot, it will drive you crazy. 3)Load up on opks, hpts, and patience. 4)Google cervical mucus until you nearly lose your dinner. 5) Have lots of sex!
Your cycle length is determined by the day you ovulate. The day you ovulate may vary a lot from cycle to cycle and woman to woman. The time period after cycle day 1 until the day you ovulate is called the follicular phase. The follicular phase could be 8 days or 60 days, although the 'norm' is more like 12 to 24 (don't quote me on that). From the day you ovulate to your next period is called the luteal phase and it is between 10-16 days on average. However, an individual woman's luteal phase doesn't vary by more than a day or two. Say, for example, your normal luteal phase is 12 days. If you ovulate on day 12, then you'll get your period on day 24. If you ovulate on day 25, then you'll get your period around day 37. This is why temping is awesome, it will tell you when you ovulated and therefore when to expect your period and when to test.
You should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by toni weschler. New edition coming July 7th! Do the tutorials on fertility friend and download the app. Buy wondfo opks from an authorized seller. But a mabis thermoneter and start temping.
I agree with the above posters - get the book Taking charge of your fertility. This will help you SOOO much in learning your cycles and body.
Coming off birth control, sometimes takes a while for your body to start a cycle again. But, if you are worried, I would go see your doctor. you mentioned that you were put on BC pills to regulate cycles and cramps - did you not have a regular cycle before BC pills? IF that is the case, you may want to see your doctor to make sure nothing is wrong. From my experience, I had irregular cycles, and when i did - i cramped TERRIBLY bad! when i came off BC pills, my cycle didn't come back. Found out I had PCOS. (super quick over view). I am not saying this to scare you - but to inform. If you feel something is wrong, you may want to find out sooner than later.
get the Fertility friend app - and chart your BBT and CM. this will help in determining when, and if, you ovulate, and when your fertile window will be- so you can have a better chance of getting pregnant.
I wish you all the best. and I am sorry about your loss. Grandmothers are special, and it is a sad day when we loose one of them. I am deeply sorry.
good luck!
ME: 24 | HIM: 30
Dr put me on BC pills at age 18 to regulate period. Got Married July 2013
TTC: Since Jan. 2014.
Diagnosed with PCOS Fall 2014. (Not IR)
Fertility Acupuncture March 2015 - December 2015 First BFP on 2/6/2016!
From one military woman (I was active-duty USMC 2000-2006 from age 19 to 25, medically retired at 80%) to another... Please do not feel like you have to explain/validate your life situation to anyone. I think it's pseudo common knowledge that military families are started much earlier. I had an unplanned pregnancy at your age (I was amenorrheic for 7 months after boot, totally my mistake) but I singlehandedly purchased my first home when baby was 5 months. I had a planned one with my new DH at 23, and another planned one as a civilian at 29. Trying to plan my 4th now at 34 while many of my peers are barely getting started. I will never regret or feel apologetic for starting early. It was one of the the best decisions of my life.
TCOYF all the way. I learned things I never knew in that book. It will also keep you from wasting money on pregnancy tests prematurely (although i'm still guilty of that lol).
Met DH - 9/2003
Dating - 9/18/2012
Married - 8/16/2014
NTNP - 7/2014-5/2015
TTC #1 - 5/2015 (CP October @ 4w2d)
*PCOS/Hypothyroid/Ectopic Kidney/High DHEA-S* HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!) CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors! SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016 Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799 EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
Also, if you have gone 60 days without a period, you should see your OB about jump starting your cycle with provera. You can read about the Provera/progesterone challenge by googling it or reading in TCOYF.
Wow! I wasn't expecting so much advice so soon! This website is great. Thank you all so much for all the advice and comments! I have heard about temping and charting and okps, which all sounds good! However, we want to try and conceive without doing all that stuff. We don't want to stress too much to conceiving. Since I haven't had my period since we decided to start trying, we haven't actually been able to "get down and dirty" lol. Once I start flowing again and we start, if we are having trouble conceiving for more than a few months, I will definitely get to temping, charting, etc. As for going to an OB, I have an appointment to see my provider on Friday and will ask to get a referral to an OB. That is so cool they can jump start your period (I never thought I'd hear myself say that)! I will definitely try to get on Provera if my period continues to be a no-show.
Again, thank you everyone for commenting! More advice is still welcome!
I agree with @Lizzie5831. MH is ex-military and we had our 1st while active duty. I was 27 y/o and I got tons of comments from military nurses like "wow you're old" and "this is your first?". I felt it was so strange that 27 was old to have my first but many military families start young.
Wow! I wasn't expecting so much advice so soon! This website is great. Thank you all so much for all the advice and comments! I have heard about temping and charting and okps, which all sounds good! However, we want to try and conceive without doing all that stuff. We don't want to stress too much to conceiving. Since I haven't had my period since we decided to start trying, we haven't actually been able to "get down and dirty" lol. Once I start flowing again and we start, if we are having trouble conceiving for more than a few months, I will definitely get to temping, charting, etc. As for going to an OB, I have an appointment to see my provider on Friday and will ask to get a referral to an OB. That is so cool they can jump start your period (I never thought I'd hear myself say that)! I will definitely try to get on Provera if my period continues to be a no-show.
Again, thank you everyone for commenting! More advice is still welcome!
BTW, still no flow
You'll find that most people here agree that charting temps actually helps make the whole process less stressful as there are no questions about when/if you ovulated, if your timing was good, or when you should expect your period. Without that you're just flying blind which leads many people to question every little twinge and worry about being 2 days "late." Also, just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean you can't start trying. You may get lucky and catch your first O after coming off the pills. Since its been a longer cycle at this point, it may be too late, but no reason not to hold off.
Wow! I wasn't expecting so much advice so soon! This website is great. Thank you all so much for all the advice and comments! I have heard about temping and charting and okps, which all sounds good! However, we want to try and conceive without doing all that stuff. We don't want to stress too much to conceiving. Since I haven't had my period since we decided to start trying, we haven't actually been able to "get down and dirty" lol. Once I start flowing again and we start, if we are having trouble conceiving for more than a few months, I will definitely get to temping, charting, etc. As for going to an OB, I have an appointment to see my provider on Friday and will ask to get a referral to an OB. That is so cool they can jump start your period (I never thought I'd hear myself say that)! I will definitely try to get on Provera if my period continues to be a no-show.
Again, thank you everyone for commenting! More advice is still welcome!
BTW, still no flow
You'll find that most people here agree that charting temps actually helps make the whole process less stressful as their are no questions about when/if you ovulated, if your timing was good, or when you should expect your period. Without that you're just flying blind which leads many people to question every little twinge and worry about being 2 days "late." Also, just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean you can't start trying. You may get lucky and catch your first O after coming off the pills. Since its been a longer cycle at this point, it may be too late, but no reason not to hold off.
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Agreed. I have charted for 6 years. Sometimes ttc. Sometimes trying to avoid. I would be really stressed if I didn't temp and therefore didn't know what part of my cycle I was in. And, although, unlikely with such a long cycke, you could ovulate any time, so you can try now and don't have to wait for AF.
Sorry for getting back to ya'll so late, it's been a busy week! However, I've got good news... Aunt Flow showed up this morning!! I don't think I have ever been so happy/excited to see her! Hoping I don't see her next month though It's kind of funny, last night I was complaining to DH about AF not coming and how frustrated I was getting and telling him about Provera and that I was gonna try and get on it. I was really getting myself worked up and upset. Well, before bed I went tinkle and sure enough there was brown discharge (pre-period, sorry tmi) and I started screaming! DH came running in and was very confused until I showed him my underwear (yes, that stuff doesn't bother either of us; we're totally open about everything lol)! And sure enough, AF was here when I woke. We are so happy!! Any advice as to when/how to start trying?! I am open for any advice! We really want to get pregnant this month since we decided to start trying about 3 months ago but haven't been able to start until AF showed, which would be now! I'm taking prenantals (stated in my original post above) and have been for a little less than a month. I am going out of town on July 17 for 3 weeks, so I really hope we have enough time to "get things done" before I leave!
Sorry for getting back to ya'll so late, it's been a busy week! However, I've got good news... Aunt Flow showed up this morning!! I don't think I have ever been so happy/excited to see her! Hoping I don't see her next month though It's kind of funny, last night I was complaining to DH about AF not coming and how frustrated I was getting and telling him about Provera and that I was gonna try and get on it. I was really getting myself worked up and upset. Well, before bed I went tinkle and sure enough there was brown discharge (pre-period, sorry tmi) and I started screaming! DH came running in and was very confused until I showed him my underwear (yes, that stuff doesn't bother either of us; we're totally open about everything lol)! And sure enough, AF was here when I woke. We are so happy!! Any advice as to when/how to start trying?! I am open for any advice! We really want to get pregnant this month since we decided to start trying about 3 months ago but haven't been able to start until AF showed, which would be now! I'm taking prenantals (stated in my original post above) and have been for a little less than a month. I am going out of town on July 17 for 3 weeks, so I really hope we have enough time to "get things done" before I leave!
Thanks!
If you seriously want to "get pregnant this month", you may want to start temping and charting, download Fertility Friend and read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Knowing the signs and temping takes out the questioning and unknown. As others have said, it really does take out the stress. Also, from what i've read and been told from friends, if/when a problem arises, it is easier to "deal with" sooner when you have proof that something may not be right. My friend was able to work with her doctor and an infertility doctor a lot sooner because she had been charting her cycles and recognized that a problem had developed.
Hello. I'm 7 weeks pregnant and we are still so surprised to be having a baby so soon. We were actively trying for 2 months. I downloaded the Ovia app and tracked my period and symptoms throughout cycle. It gave me a clear indication of when I would be fertile. I took Folic Acid and ate a pineapple core on my fertile days. I don't know where I read this or if it's a load of rubbish but worth a try. I have had issues with period and ovaries previously and anticipated 6-12 months of TTC. I also lay on my back with legs elevated after intercourse. Good luck x
Hello.
I'm 7 weeks pregnant and we are still so surprised to be having a baby so soon.
We were actively trying for 2 months.
I downloaded the Ovia app and tracked my period and symptoms throughout cycle. It gave me a clear indication of when I would be fertile. I took Folic Acid and ate a pineapple core on my fertile days. I don't know where I read this or if it's a load of rubbish but worth a try.
I have had issues with period and ovaries previously and anticipated 6-12 months of TTC.
I also lay on my back with legs elevated after intercourse.
Good luck x
Please whatever you do, don't lay on your back after intercourse. It doesn't help the swimmers (they already know where they are going) and you are at higher risk for UTI (by not peeing afterwards). A UTI would for-sure set you back a month.
I will definitely start temping and will download that app. Thanks! And yeah, I read to elevate your legs after intercourse and to even have an orgasm after the little swimmers are in you... but that makes sense about the UTI. I've had three and would do anything not to get another; they are awful. Thanks for all the tips! I will certainly keep ya'll updated. Wish us luck!
Hello again! So I have been charting since day one of my cycle, however, compared to sample charts and charts from other women I've looked up on the internet, mine looks a bit weird. During the middle of my period my basal temp dropped drastically and then started to rise a bit. Compared to other charts, this looks as if I ovulated in the middle of my period, which obviously can't be right. I am only on cd8, so still waiting to see if I have a drop and then rise (indicating ovulation) in a few days. FF predicts that I will O on Monday (July 13). So we will see! But I just wanted to share my chart with everyone (what I have so fat at least) and see if its looking good to ya'll.
Some ladies have higher temps during their period and don't even temp during that time (because of that). I wouldn't worry about it. Are you checking CM, CP or OPKs to help confirm ovulation?
No, I haven't been checking any of those #-o We didn't want to start using OPKs unless we have been trying for a while (this is our first month ttc). And I don't really know how to check CP
Please whatever you do, don't lay on your back after intercourse. It doesn't help the swimmers (they already know where they are going) and you are at higher risk for UTI (by not peeing afterwards). A UTI would for-sure set you back a month.
Oh my gosh THIS. For sure don't lay on your back with your feet up!! The one time I got KU we had a quickie and then I literally had to run to catch a train - those swimmers are meant to swim, no special position required!
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TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
-- you don't have to convince us of your maturity with material goods or other impressive things. These are merely outwardly check marks. You could have all of it (and a bag of chips) & STILL not be ready to have a baby.
-- you don't need our (or anyone else's) permission to procreate.
This is not a blog, but a forum (discussion) . So part of it is dealing with a variety of personalities, responses & views.
Some of which you may not agree with or like to hear.
*lurker*ticker warning and pregnancy mentioned* Agree with everyone who has already said temp and use FF. It will save you from questioning when to expect AF. It isn't stressful, and I did it while dealing with a constantly sick DS who ended up having 2 febrile seizures this year. January didn't get my temping done, February started temping while NTNP, and got a BFP in March. Unless you want to risk getting a UTI, no one here ever recommends laying around after sex.
Pick up a copy of TCOYF, and definitely read all the stickie posts at the top of the discussions page. Also search for the post'If you could tell a newbie anything"
Good luck!!
Married 05.19.07 | Together since 03.11.00 | Dom Born 02.06.12
Hello again! So I have been charting since day one of my cycle, however, compared to sample charts and charts from other women I've looked up on the internet, mine looks a bit weird. During the middle of my period my basal temp dropped drastically and then started to rise a bit. Compared to other charts, this looks as if I ovulated in the middle of my period, which obviously can't be right. I am only on cd8, so still waiting to see if I have a drop and then rise (indicating ovulation) in a few days. FF predicts that I will O on Monday (July 13). So we will see! But I just wanted to share my chart with everyone (what I have so fat at least) and see if its looking good to ya'll.
Your chart is totally normal. Have you done the tutorials? You can see my charts in my Siggy. Temp fluctuations are normal. The ONLY thing you are looking for is a temp shift with three temos above your previous temps. Otherwise, your temps can and should vary from day to day.
Oh good, I'm happy it's normal! So what exactly am I looking for? You said I'm looking for a temp shift with three "temos" about previous temps.. I think you meant "temps" instead of "temos" but still not sure what I'm supposed to look for! I'm such a newbie X_X
Oh good, I'm happy it's normal! So what exactly am I looking for? You said I'm looking for a temp shift with three "temos" about previous temps.. I think you meant "temps" instead of "temos" but still not sure what I'm supposed to look for! I'm such a newbie X_X
Now, I'm feeling some cramping in my lower right side of abdomen.. I'm on cd8, and only 2 days post-AF. Any ideas as to what it could be? And no, I am not indicating pregnancy haha I'm thinking it could be ovulation but I'd think it's too early for that. So idk, any ideas?!
Good luck!!! We are in the same boat just about. June was my first month trying as well!
Good luck to you too! I'm guessing no luck for the month of June for you?
Not entirely sure yet. I just started testing yesterday at 10 DPO. (AF due this Sunday) yesterday I had a faint line but it was almost invisible- I may be seeing what I want to see. I'm going to re test tomorrow and through the weekend as needed until a better line or until AF shows. Will July be your first month?
Now, I'm feeling some cramping in my lower right side of abdomen.. I'm on cd8, and only 2 days post-AF. Any ideas as to what it could be? And no, I am not indicating pregnancy haha I'm thinking it could be ovulation but I'd think it's too early for that. So idk, any ideas?!
Gas? Poop? Muscle spasm? Strained muscle? Random cramp?
It could be anything.
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Good luck!!! We are in the same boat just about. June was my first month trying as well!
Good luck to you too! I'm guessing no luck for the month of June for you?
Not entirely sure yet. I just started testing yesterday at 10 DPO. (AF due this Sunday) yesterday I had a faint line but it was almost invisible- I may be seeing what I want to see. I'm going to re test tomorrow and through the weekend as needed until a better line or until AF shows. Will July be your first month?
Hey, what I've read on here is that you're not out till the witch shows her face! So that's still a chance you might be and yes, this is our first month. We hope we get lucky and it'll be our last month ttc for baby #1! Is the baby 1 for you?
Now, I'm feeling some cramping in my lower right side of abdomen.. I'm on cd8, and only 2 days post-AF. Any ideas as to what it could be? And no, I am not indicating pregnancy haha I'm thinking it could be ovulation but I'd think it's too early for that. So idk, any ideas?!
Gas? Poop? Muscle spasm? Strained muscle? Random cramp?
It could be anything.
Hmm, ok thanks. Felt more like a mild menstrual type cramp but you're right, could be anything.
Good luck!!! We are in the same boat just about. June was my first month trying as well!
Good luck to you too! I'm guessing no luck for the month of June for you?
Not entirely sure yet. I just started testing yesterday at 10 DPO. (AF due this Sunday) yesterday I had a faint line but it was almost invisible- I may be seeing what I want to see. I'm going to re test tomorrow and through the weekend as needed until a better line or until AF shows. Will July be your first month?
Hey, what I've read on here is that you're not out till the witch shows her face! So that's still a chance you might be and yes, this is our first month. We hope we get lucky and it'll be our last month ttc for baby #1! Is the baby 1 for you?
Thanks! Yep still holding out hope especially with the line this morning just hoping for a darker one And yes baby #1 for us too!! All my family has gotten PG super fast, like first month TTC. We'll see if I too follow in their footsteps that would definitely be lucky though. Keeping my FX for you too!!!
Another question.. How often did/do most of you BD? Like I've said before, we are really hoping to get pregnant this month so we are trying extra hard which means we've BD every day since the cd1 and we plan to keep BD every day till I go out of town on the 17th (which hopefully I will have O by then). But I've read different things on doing it that often.. Some say they got pregnant right away/the first month trying, others say that it's not bad to do it that often but it doesn't help either, and then some say it's bad because the guy isn't giving his body enough time to produce more sperm so then he will just be ejaculating fluid but no sperm.. What I mostly read was the every other day was the best. But like I said, we REALLY want to get pregnant this month so I think every day will benefit us the most. Any opinions?
Don't feel the need to defend yourself about trying to have a baby. If you two feel the time is right go for it. But someone a little older than you, can I give you some advice?
I married my highschool sweetheart to. He was my first everything. Amazing feeling isn't it? Bring able to literally grow with them? We did the whole long distance thing for college. It was awful but so worth it. We went to great colleges have degrees and amazing jobs. On paper my husband and I appeared ready for a long time. I get annoyed with questions of when we are going to have kids, why we don't already. Blah blah blah. I'm 27 so I have time... I'm not worried. Yes, I've been with my husband since I was 14 (you do the math) and I've had many many amazing years with him. But now.. We are done with college! We make great money and finally have time and money to travel and actually BE with each other. Before our lives were school, school, school, study maybe see each other on weekends. That is reality!! But this is the first time we have had NO responsibility other than work. I really want to embrace that time with my husband and I hope you get that time with yours before you can't do it. My husband is more to me then someone helping me being a child in this world. He is my partner, my life and my best friend. Yes, we are probably going to start TTC around December, after our honeymoon/anniversary. Just make sure you take time with your husband before doing this. You are very young and "almost being done with school" isn't enough. There is more to it in life.
So if you still feel you have accomplished those things then go for it. If not, my suggestion is to put TTC on hold and BE with your husband. Just you and him because you won't get it ever again.
^This has been discussed at great length on this board, so if you could check the search feature at the bottom of the page you should get back all kinds of results.
Re: Trying to conceive first baby!!! ANY advice would be greatly appreciated!
1) If you're not already temping, get on that and buy a copy of Taking Control of Your Fertility.
2)Try not to symptom spot, it will drive you crazy.
3)Load up on opks, hpts, and patience. 4)Google cervical mucus until you nearly lose your dinner.
5) Have lots of sex!
There's more, but thems the basics.
Your cycle length is determined by the day you ovulate. The day you ovulate may vary a lot from cycle to cycle and woman to woman. The time period after cycle day 1 until the day you ovulate is called the follicular phase. The follicular phase could be 8 days or 60 days, although the 'norm' is more like 12 to 24 (don't quote me on that).
From the day you ovulate to your next period is called the luteal phase and it is between 10-16 days on average. However, an individual woman's luteal phase doesn't vary by more than a day or two.
Say, for example, your normal luteal phase is 12 days. If you ovulate on day 12, then you'll get your period on day 24. If you ovulate on day 25, then you'll get your period around day 37.
This is why temping is awesome, it will tell you when you ovulated and therefore when to expect your period and when to test.
You should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by toni weschler. New edition coming July 7th! Do the tutorials on fertility friend and download the app. Buy wondfo opks from an authorized seller. But a mabis thermoneter and start temping.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Got Married July 2013
First BFP on 2/6/2016!
I like 3rd or 4th the TCOYF book and the FF app.
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
*TEAM BLUE!*
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
You'll find that most people here agree that charting temps actually helps make the whole process less stressful as there are no questions about when/if you ovulated, if your timing was good, or when you should expect your period. Without that you're just flying blind which leads many people to question every little twinge and worry about being 2 days "late." Also, just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean you can't start trying. You may get lucky and catch your first O after coming off the pills. Since its been a longer cycle at this point, it may be too late, but no reason not to hold off.
You'll find that most people here agree that charting temps actually helps make the whole process less stressful as their are no questions about when/if you ovulated, if your timing was good, or when you should expect your period. Without that you're just flying blind which leads many people to question every little twinge and worry about being 2 days "late." Also, just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean you can't start trying. You may get lucky and catch your first O after coming off the pills. Since its been a longer cycle at this point, it may be too late, but no reason not to hold off.
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Agreed. I have charted for 6 years. Sometimes ttc. Sometimes trying to avoid. I would be really stressed if I didn't temp and therefore didn't know what part of my cycle I was in.
And, although, unlikely with such a long cycke, you could ovulate any time, so you can try now and don't have to wait for AF.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
I'm 7 weeks pregnant and we are still so surprised to be having a baby so soon.
We were actively trying for 2 months.
I downloaded the Ovia app and tracked my period and symptoms throughout cycle. It gave me a clear indication of when I would be fertile. I took Folic Acid and ate a pineapple core on my fertile days. I don't know where I read this or if it's a load of rubbish but worth a try.
I have had issues with period and ovaries previously and anticipated 6-12 months of TTC.
I also lay on my back with legs elevated after intercourse.
Good luck x
Please whatever you do, don't lay on your back after intercourse. It doesn't help the swimmers (they already know where they are going) and you are at higher risk for UTI (by not peeing afterwards). A UTI would for-sure set you back a month.
They aren't expensive, so might as well!
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Oh my gosh THIS. For sure don't lay on your back with your feet up!! The one time I got KU we had a quickie and then I literally had to run to catch a train - those swimmers are meant to swim, no special position required!
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TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Hmmm...some thoughts...
-- you don't have to convince us of your maturity with material goods or other impressive things. These are merely outwardly check marks. You could have all of it (and a bag of chips) & STILL not be ready to have a baby.
-- you don't need our (or anyone else's) permission to procreate.
This is not a blog, but a forum (discussion) . So part of it is dealing with a variety of personalities, responses & views.
Some of which you may not agree with or like to hear.
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Agree with everyone who has already said temp and use FF. It will save you from questioning when to expect AF.
It isn't stressful, and I did it while dealing with a constantly sick DS who ended up having 2 febrile seizures this year.
January didn't get my temping done, February started temping while NTNP, and got a BFP in March.
Unless you want to risk getting a UTI, no one here ever recommends laying around after sex.
Pick up a copy of TCOYF, and definitely read all the stickie posts at the top of the discussions page. Also search for the post'If you could tell a newbie anything"
Good luck!!
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Read this...and all the other lessons. It will explain it. https://www.fertilityfriend.com/courses/lesson.php?p=1;7;760442;78f2
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Now, I'm feeling some cramping in my lower right side of abdomen.. I'm on cd8, and only 2 days post-AF. Any ideas as to what it could be? And no, I am not indicating pregnancy haha I'm thinking it could be ovulation but I'd think it's too early for that. So idk, any ideas?!
Not entirely sure yet. I just started testing yesterday at 10 DPO. (AF due this Sunday) yesterday I had a faint line but it was almost invisible- I may be seeing what I want to see. I'm going to re test tomorrow and through the weekend as needed until a better line or until AF shows. Will July be your first month?
It could be anything.
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DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
And yes baby #1 for us too!! All my family has gotten PG super fast, like first month TTC. We'll see if I too follow in their footsteps that would definitely be lucky though. Keeping my FX for you too!!!
I married my highschool sweetheart to. He was my first everything. Amazing feeling isn't it? Bring able to literally grow with them? We did the whole long distance thing for college. It was awful but so worth it. We went to great colleges have degrees and amazing jobs. On paper my husband and I appeared ready for a long time. I get annoyed with questions of when we are going to have kids, why we don't already. Blah blah blah. I'm 27 so I have time... I'm not worried. Yes, I've been with my husband since I was 14 (you do the math) and I've had many many amazing years with him. But now.. We are done with college! We make great money and finally have time and money to travel and actually BE with each other. Before our lives were school, school, school, study maybe see each other on weekends. That is reality!! But this is the first time we have had NO responsibility other than work. I really want to embrace that time with my husband and I hope you get that time with yours before you can't do it. My husband is more to me then someone helping me being a child in this world. He is my partner, my life and my best friend. Yes, we are probably going to start TTC around December, after our honeymoon/anniversary. Just make sure you take time with your husband before doing this. You are very young and "almost being done with school" isn't enough. There is more to it in life.
So if you still feel you have accomplished those things then go for it. If not, my suggestion is to put TTC on hold and BE with your husband. Just you and him because you won't get it ever again.
^This has been discussed at great length on this board, so if you could check the search feature at the bottom of the page you should get back all kinds of results.
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