@amberrmariee20, you are entitled to your opinion as much as anyone else. I think "colour" is British English and "color" is American English. I teach British Lit and kids notice this difference, among others, all the time. I think it's similar in Australia and Canada (colour), right?
Also, feel free to join the GIF party and let the baby shower debate rest. We could all use a good laugh for the evening!
FWIW, the whole baby shower thing should be considered on a case-by-case basis. If a pregnant friend or relative was having a shower and it was her 2nd baby, I probably wouldn't bat an eyelash especially if the 2nd child was a few years apart and/or was of the opposite sex of the first child. I would gladly attend. With a gift.
However, let's say she was about to have 3 girls under 3 or something like that and a full-on baby shower was thrown, I'd feel that shower was in poor taste. That's not to say it wouldn't be nice to host a luncheon or to take the expectant mom out for a nice dinner to celebrate.
@amberrmariee20, you are entitled to your opinion as much as anyone else. I think "colour" is British English and "color" is American English. I teach British Lit and kids notice this difference, among others, all the time. I think it's similar in Australia and Canada (colour), right?
Also, feel free to join the GIF party and let the baby shower debate rest. We could all use a good laugh for the evening!
Haha I mixed that up while I was typing it ! I had my 3 year old trying to play papa pear saga on my phone !
@giraffesRamazing, not saying I am... But what if I don't have a job, can't work for medical reasons. Have no monthly income and need the help ? Your oh so into shaming people !
Go apply for SSI if that's the case sweetie. No excuses. If you've already been denied SSI chances are you can work. Before we make the decision to make children, especially 2, 3, or 4- we should review our finances.
@giraffesRamazing, not saying I am... But what if I don't have a job, can't work for medical reasons. Have no monthly income and need the help ? Your oh so into shaming people !
Go apply for SSI if that's the case sweetie. No excuses. If you've already been denied SSI chances are you can work.
Haha didn't say I was, was speaking for the people who are (: ! My bf is a fisherman in the US !
I've never been on the November board, but I have has a couple instances of moms on here being completely rude.. My hormones are crazy as it is and I just feel it's so un called for.. Made me almost just delete the app.
please answer this 100% honestly no nastiness. This is just a question, I am wanting a yes or no answer. Is this group as horrible as the nov 2015 group? I really don't want to delete this app. But I seriously can NOT handle some of the "ladies" on that board. They are so negative and nasty. I am due in November but really want to join a happy positive welcoming board.
please answer this 100% honestly no nastiness. This is just a question, I am wanting a yes or no answer. Is this group as horrible as the nov 2015 group? I really don't want to delete this app. But I seriously can NOT handle some of the "ladies" on that board. They are so negative and nasty. I am due in November but really want to join a happy positive welcoming board.
This post is not rude. Nor is it inaccurate. Some of the members of the Nov15 board are pretty nasty toward others. But it happens from time to time in here, as well. You're always going to find those little obnoxious keyboard warriors in message boards.
please answer this 100% honestly no nastiness. This is just a question, I am wanting a yes or no answer. Is this group as horrible as the nov 2015 group? I really don't want to delete this app. But I seriously can NOT handle some of the "ladies" on that board. They are so negative and nasty. I am due in November but really want to join a happy positive welcoming board.
Nice TOU violation.
Actually, apparently it isn't.
Really? Even in the guidelines it says a personal attack is "The member of ____ board are a bunch of crazies [sub negative and nasty]"
@TexasBride90 I agree (: ! I gave all of my sons newborn clothes he was too big for to the NICU where he spent the first 3 weeks. After that I started giving them to my friend who had 3 children and was a single mother. My parents and family would rather help out a family member then a complete stranger. And also, @giraffesRamazing my sister is also having a baby shower for her 4th child, except it's a potluck supper. Everyone is coming to eat (: ! But also I'll be purchasing her stuff for my new nephew ! And I'll enjoy my baby shower, along with my family and close friends, and I promise you I won't feel any shame. I'll be happy and proud. While you sit here and find the negativity in stuff.
Whoa whoa whoa whoa. So a potluck supper for a 4th child??????? That's like saying, "buy me gifts because I got pregnant again, and while you're at it, pay for your own food too!"
@TexasBride90 I agree (: ! I gave all of my sons newborn clothes he was too big for to the NICU where he spent the first 3 weeks. After that I started giving them to my friend who had 3 children and was a single mother. My parents and family would rather help out a family member then a complete stranger. And also, @giraffesRamazing my sister is also having a baby shower for her 4th child, except it's a potluck supper. Everyone is coming to eat (: ! But also I'll be purchasing her stuff for my new nephew ! And I'll enjoy my baby shower, along with my family and close friends, and I promise you I won't feel any shame. I'll be happy and proud. While you sit here and find the negativity in stuff.
Whoa whoa whoa whoa. So a potluck supper for a 4th child??????? That's like saying, "buy me gifts because I got pregnant again, and while you're at it, pay for your own food too!"
No she's not doing gifts this time ! Just a get together, kind of like a bbq, but some close friends offered to bring food, so that's what they are doing for it !
Good lord, this is making the fifteen-year-old girls I work with and their Twitter wars look tame. If "ratchet" was substituted for "tacky" I wouldn't be able to tell the difference!
Hey ladies, everyone is going to have cute babies in a number of months! CUTE. BABIES. Take a deep breath and picture many cute babies and lay off one another. Life is good!
Gotta love when you haven't been on the bump for 1/2 a day and come back to see 90+ new comments on a thread. X_X
omg I said the same thing !!! How is that a group of grown women can act so juvenile.. This reminded me of my fifteen yr old cousins fb page what is this?!
Just to comment on the bbshower thing I come from a culture were every baby gets a shower because we celebrate baby's and the miracle of them and yes it is about the presents because the patents to be will be supporting the baby for the rest of their lives, the very least that the loved ones can do is try. And help them out to get the first few things even if they have the funds to do so themselves it is still the custom. We also help out the first few days and weeks after baby is born again to. Support the parents and help out and from what @amberrmariee20 said it seems like her family wants to support her and her kids no should be judged on what their family traditions are!
"@gabrielafrnqyepez omg I said the same thing !!! How is that a group of grown women can act so juvenile.. This reminded me of my fifteen yr old cousins fb page what is this?!
Just to comment on the bbshower thing I come from a culture were every baby gets a shower because we celebrate baby's and the miracle of them and yes it is about the presents because the patents to be will be supporting the baby for the rest of their lives, the very least that the loved ones can do is try. And help them out to get the first few things even if they have the funds to do so themselves it is still the custom. We also help out the first few days and weeks after baby is born again to. Support the parents and help out and from what @amberrmariee20 said it seems like her family wants to support her and her kids no should be judged on what their family traditions are!"
I feel like this whole thread is proof that the op was right about n15 lol. I actually think this is a really positive board compared with some of the rest of the bump boards...welcome!
Lol guess I missed a lot of action on the bump today. Just skimmed this thread and I'm glad I wasn't on this thread earlier. I have a major migraine caused by pettiness.
"@gabrielafrnqyepez omg I said the same thing !!! How is that a group of grown women can act so juvenile.. This reminded me of my fifteen yr old cousins fb page what is this?!
Just to comment on the bbshower thing I come from a culture were every baby gets a shower because we celebrate baby's and the miracle of them and yes it is about the presents because the patents to be will be supporting the baby for the rest of their lives, the very least that the loved ones can do is try. And help them out to get the first few things even if they have the funds to do so themselves it is still the custom. We also help out the first few days and weeks after baby is born again to. Support the parents and help out and from what @amberrmariee20 said it seems like her family wants to support her and her kids no should be judged on what their family traditions are!
I'm from Ecuador born there but I was raised in NYC lived here since I was about 6 yrs old , but that's not relevant for as long as I can remember that's how those around me have gone about baby showers. And my dh is PR born in NYC raised in NYC and his family follows this tradition as well. And wait I know a few Italians and Irish in the family who have lived here for idk how long that also follow this, a few African Americans in my family as well were a very diverse group!
Welcome! I think it's really terrible when moms are so judgy. We are all in the same boat and facing the same fears and excitement. Support and encouragement is all we really need. I have an almost three year old, and the judgement unfortunately doesn't end with pregnancy.
Welcome! I think it's really terrible when moms are so judgy. We are all in the same boat and facing the same fears and excitement. Support and encouragement is all we really need. I have an almost three year old, and the judgement unfortunately doesn't end with pregnancy.
I'm from a very small town, no big buildings, no major stores far away from big cities, and everyone here loves everyone, everyone is so friendly, waves and talks to everyone, stops to help people out, and they'll we have our familes. Who also love to help us out, even if we don't need the help. They will still help ! @gabrielafrnqyepez your family sounds a lot like mine, love able !
I'm from Ecuador born there but I was raised in NYC lived here since I was about 6 yrs old , but that's not relevant for as long as I can remember that's how those around me have gone about baby showers. And my dh is PR born in NYC raised in NYC and his family follows this tradition as well. And wait I know a few Italians and Irish in the family who have lived here for idk how long that also follow this, a few African Americans in my family as well were a very diverse group!
I think this is more of a way you were raised than a "cultural" thing. I married into a HUGE Italian family and they would NEVER allow me to have another shower for another baby, it would be such a faux pas. I'm Irish as well on my side and it's also considered a faux pas with my family. As for Hispanics and African Americans, not all of them do showers for every baby. It's not "cultural"
Why must this unnecessary drama be brought to our board. Keep it to your own board so we can continue to have a peaceful, loving, supportive group of women.
Trust me that is NOT the culture of NYC. At least not the one I lived in.
I don't know what part of NYC ur from but from my incredible love for this city and deep understanding New Yorkers are well known for supporting each other and lending a hand when any one in the community needs it in the neighborhood I am in and surrounding neighborhoods even those in political places have attended these get togethere if the point ur trying to sell is tackiness u are very well entitled to your opinion and I am terribly sorry if your family and community in ny did not support you the way I know is done mb you came from the "lucky" percentage that didn't need any kind of help with anything ever so much so that it wasn't offered but do not knock down those that do for others and those that appreciate what is done for them. In no shape or way is this done as charity but its done from love idk about you but I'm in a middle class that even when a child is planned and the funds are there, there is still worry on making sure the future is set, kids cost a lot of money to support and I don't think any one right now in the economy we are in is any place to turn away help!
I'm from a very small town, no big buildings, no major stores far away from big cities, and everyone here loves everyone, everyone is so friendly, waves and talks to everyone, stops to help people out, and they'll we have our familes. Who also love to help us out, even if we don't need the help. They will still help ! @gabrielafrnqyepez your family sounds a lot like mine, love able !
that's how it is in my neighborhood we all know one another we all help one another not that we go to each other homes or treat everyyyy one like family but we are a close knit community I live in woodside/ Sunnyside , I attend school board meeting I attend community meetings dh's. Family is well known for their business. And were all friendly happy ppl. I don't live in Manhattan mb ppl there are " different " but I have friends in the city that are just likeour family. I have friends and family in Brooklyn , long island , the bronx and there too even more now then before only place I don't know any one in is Staten island mb that's the NYC that is refered to by other pp! But @amberrmariee20 ppl like you and I appreciate the support we receive and that's all that matters! Well enjoy our showers laugh eat and create beautiful memories and keep family tradion going!
Re: Honest question
However, let's say she was about to have 3 girls under 3 or something like that and a full-on baby shower was thrown, I'd feel that shower was in poor taste. That's not to say it wouldn't be nice to host a luncheon or to take the expectant mom out for a nice dinner to celebrate.
But generally speaking....
Haha I mixed that up while I was typing it ! I had my 3 year old trying to play papa pear saga on my phone !
omg I said the same thing !!! How is that a group of grown women can act so juvenile.. This reminded me of my fifteen yr old cousins fb page what is this?!
Just to comment on the bbshower thing I come from a culture were every baby gets a shower because we celebrate baby's and the miracle of them and yes it is about the presents because the patents to be will be supporting the baby for the rest of their lives, the very least that the loved ones can do is try. And help them out to get the first few things even if they have the funds to do so themselves it is still the custom. We also help out the first few days and weeks after baby is born again to. Support the parents and help out and from what @amberrmariee20 said it seems like her family wants to support her and her kids no should be judged on what their family traditions are!
omg I said the same thing !!! How is that a group of grown women can act so juvenile.. This reminded me of my fifteen yr old cousins fb page what is this?!
Just to comment on the bbshower thing I come from a culture were every baby gets a shower because we celebrate baby's and the miracle of them and yes it is about the presents because the patents to be will be supporting the baby for the rest of their lives, the very least that the loved ones can do is try. And help them out to get the first few things even if they have the funds to do so themselves it is still the custom. We also help out the first few days and weeks after baby is born again to. Support the parents and help out and from what @amberrmariee20 said it seems like her family wants to support her and her kids no should be judged on what their family traditions are!"
Thank you!!!
Thank you!!!
Out of curiosity, what culture promotes that?
I don't know what part of NYC ur from but from my incredible love for this city and deep understanding New Yorkers are well known for supporting each other and lending a hand when any one in the community needs it in the neighborhood I am in and surrounding neighborhoods even those in political places have attended these get togethere if the point ur trying to sell is tackiness u are very well entitled to your opinion and I am terribly sorry if your family and community in ny did not support you the way I know is done mb you came from the "lucky" percentage that didn't need any kind of help with anything ever so much so that it wasn't offered but do not knock down those that do for others and those that appreciate what is done for them. In no shape or way is this done as charity but its done from love idk about you but I'm in a middle class that even when a child is planned and the funds are there, there is still worry on making sure the future is set, kids cost a lot of money to support and I don't think any one right now in the economy we are in is any place to turn away help!
that's how it is in my neighborhood we all know one another we all help one another not that we go to each other homes or treat everyyyy one like family but we are a close knit community I live in woodside/ Sunnyside , I attend school board meeting I attend community meetings dh's. Family is well known for their business. And were all friendly happy ppl. I don't live in Manhattan mb ppl there are " different " but I have friends in the city that are just likeour family. I have friends and family in Brooklyn , long island , the bronx and there too even more now then before only place I don't know any one in is Staten island mb that's the NYC that is refered to by other pp! But @amberrmariee20 ppl like you and I appreciate the support we receive and that's all that matters! Well enjoy our showers laugh eat and create beautiful memories and keep family tradion going!