I'M NOT TRYING TO JUDGE OR OFFEND ANYONE PLEASE DON'T TAKE IT THAT WAY.
Ladies how do you handle when you find out that a family member who did not plan a pregnancy is now pregnant? This is the third family member who is now pregnant since we starting trying. I am not saying that they are not entitled to have a baby, it is just hard since we are planning and have been trying and still not pregnant.
I want to be happy for them but I am having a hard time today with the most recent announcement.
Re: Family Member Pregnant
If you need to take some distance for yourself, that's fine, but make sure you're responsible for your own feelings and actions. Their journey, announcements, and anything else aren't there to hurt you.
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I completely understand what you're feeling. Just remember that others fertility has no bearing on yours.
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I'm not WKing either but maybe OP sees it as even more frustrating if someone who is pregnant wasn't "trying" yet she's trying and it hasn't happened yet?
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I know it sounds selfish, but it's how I felt as soon as I found out.
I've now had some time to think about everything and have come to realize that I'm truly happy for her, but at first it wasn't easy to deal with the news.
@Ashley8761 the way I see it, it's okay to be sad and hurt for a bit. Take some time to be with yourself and realize that you really are happy for them, and you need to continue in your journey, which is completely separate from theirs.
You are allowed to feel sad for yourself, but please don't steal other people's joy!
I learned this the hard way recently. I had a loss at 5 weeks in December. My SIL is 31 weeks now. I withdrew a bit, as being around her was really painful. I didn't realise exactly how much I hurt her by suddenly not being around, especially as she was just supportive and caring during my loss.
Yesterday she sent me photos of her 3D ultrasound. While I am honestly happy and excited for her, I couldn't help but cry a few tears for myself when I received the photos. But when I am around her, I make an effort to take an interest in her and her pregnancy.
Just distinguish between your own sadness, and happiness for them. Their being pregnant takes nothing away from you.
Take care.
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