Help! My MIL is taking over my home!
After we ended up taking truck loads to the Thriftstore when we first bought this house, we set a ground rule that she was not allowed to bring over anything. This ended up hurting my MILs feelings and she felt she wasn't "welcome" and stopped visiting all together.
She is now our caregiver for DD and watches her in our home during the week. She spends all her weekends Thriftstore shopping and every Monday I come home to things put away in my home...bedding, nightstands, lamps, used candles, dishes, rugs, towels, clothes and now since we have LO...BABY things!!!
I don't want to be ungrateful or hurt her feelings..but I have baby clothes and toys coming out the wazoo now and she's only been watching her for 4 months!
We've told her many times NOT to bring things, yet it still appears. DH has literally taken things she's brought and put it outside on the porch to get through to her, but she still doesn't get it. She justifies everything by saying "it was free!!!" Or "it was only $2!!!".
We literally have 50+ 6M onesies, drawers full of pants, sleepers etc...way more than she could ever wear, let alone fit in her room. The TOYS are EVERYWHERE! Rooms full of toys already. I feel ridiculous not allowing her to bring toys over, but there has got to be a limit to how many toys an 8month old needs?! And it's not like she is giving us "gifts", these clothes and items just appear in our drawers/closets, cabinets etc....
I'm considering boxing up clothes and other things that aren't our style or are too worn. I haven't decided what to do after I've put them away (give back or donate myself?) but I feel like I need to get it OUT of my home. Has anyone had to deal with this? What can I do to get her to stop without completely stomping on her feelings?
Re: NCDR How to handle "gift" overload?!
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I think it might be time for a serious conversation between the three of you. Explain to her how grateful you are to her for watching LO and for thinking of you when she gets things, but that you can't continue like this. Its taking over your house. You could even play the "we're concerned LO will grow up spoiled if she always has so many thing" card. Maybe set a limit. Like you only want enough 9 months clothes to fill one tub. If she buys more than that you will donate it. That might help her to be more selective when she buys things instead of just getting everything that's cheap.
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If this conversation has caused friction between you two before, would it be better for your DH to talk with her? That's pretty much the arrangement we have; we're each responsible for talking to our own parents about these issues.
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I've had all of these discussions repeatedly since DD has been born. Finally a melodramatic meltdown seems to have (at least temporarily) worked. Hopefully it won't get to that for you.
We literally (and I know this gets overused) but seriously, we literally have more babybooks than the public library where we live. I should have taken a picture of the time we took all the clothes out (sorted intentionally when MIL was there, so that she could see how much DD has). We have a pretty big living room and the clothes was piled the whole length of the room (sizes 0-3 month to size 2).
The baby books! There are so many baby books!!!!!
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BFP #1 ended in MMC. Discovered Oct 2005 @10w5d, baby stopped growing around 6w. D&C.
BFP#2 Nov 2005. Baby's heart stopped @ 8w3d. D&C Jan 2006. Trisomy 18
BFP#3 Nov 2006. My "miracle baby" DD born 7/25/07
BFP #4 11/6/12. EDD 7/16/13~my birthday! No sac found @ 5w1d, betas not increasing. Natural m/c started 11/20/12.
BFP#5 11/9/13. EDD 7/21/14 Our beautiful rainbow born on his due date!!