I'm a first time mom at 36. My husband has an 8 yr old that I've been a part of her life too since she was less than a year. She has been staying with us for the summer. And every weekend during the school year. She's exhibiting extreme jealousy and keeps saying why is the baby getting new clothes and a new bed. However, she'd always get new clothes and new toys very often. We go far and beyond to make everything fair but I feel like she doesn't want the baby at all. I hope once the baby is born this subsides. I make her a part of everything we do or prepare for the baby. For the baby shower I let her make a poster , do a speech, and help with the presents. The next day my husband took her shopping. None of this worked. After all that she still continues to display more jealousy than ever. I'm running out of things to do. I watch how she gets upset and tie up the dogs by their necks and paws. I feel a bit worried about turning my back on her with the baby. Any advice. ?
Re: Step daughter jealousy
She's old enough that I don't think extra shopping trips or things are the answer. It sounds like she just needs some emotional reassurance.
Also, older siblings in nuclear families also struggle with new baby jealousy. It's normal. Help her talk through her feelings, but don't make a huge fuss. Try to play up the positive aspects of being a big sister. She's still young enough that she's likely to enjoy helping with the baby once he/she arrives.
Finally, don't let this sap your joy at having your first baby. It's ok for you to enjoy this time.
Your stepdaughter will adjust. Sending good thoughts that she starts to get excited.
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Again, animal abuse is a HUGE red flag in childhood behaviors.... consider counseling. And trust your instincts about leaving her alone with the baby.
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