Short Story: Well I found THAT guy in my office, you know the one without a filter that seems to have an endless supply of comments about my changing shape, as if I need to be reminded or haven't quite noticed myself... Joy!
Long Story: I have been wearing very flowy shirts to work since I "popped" a couple weeks ago, not really consciously, its just been more comfortable. Although yesterday, for the first time, I decided to wear something a little more form fitted, only because I have been rocking the same 5 shirts for a while now. I was so unsure before I left the house in the morning because I just felt so out there, I don't how else to describe it. I even asked DH his opinion and he very sweetly said I looked beautiful and was happy to see me "bumping out", so I left the house a little more confident.
When I got to work, I went to check in with a co-worker who sits in a larger office space with a number of other people. THAT one guy turned around when I came in and let out a very loud "WHOA" causing everyone to turn, followed by "You got so big". In the moment I laughed it off, continued with my conversation then proceeded to go back to my office, shut the door and cry. I don't know if I'm more upset by his comment or my reaction!
I am not usually an emotional person, but this pregnancy has certainly brought up the tears on numerous occasions. Now, I feel more self conscious than ever, although I will admit I was already struggling with the rapid changes my body has undergone in the last few weeks.
Sorry for how long this turned out to be, I guess I had a lot more to vent than I anticipated. I guess the moral of the story is you can't quite be completely prepared for the THAT one guy, no matter how many people warn you its coming!
Re: I should've been prepared, I've been warned! (Long Vent)
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Do we work with the same a-hole? That sounds just like a guy in my office. I'm so sorry he was such a jerk to you. I know sometimes I get so caught off guard by the stupid comments, I later beat myself up for not standing up for myself. The other day I was talking to my co-workers and made mention about eating two cheeseburgers for lunch... he butts in "Oh yea, we can definitelyyy tell!"... Just days after he proceeded to tell me "I hope you feel better than you look, bc you look like shit" - his exact words.
Just try to block him out! You are growing something so precious, & if putting down a pregnant woman just for laughs makes his day, then I feel bad for him. Don't let him get to you - rock that bump
My friend whose daughter just turned 1 year a couple weeks ago warned me it only gets worse, "Wait until they comment about how you look like you're about to pop". Great!
I had a coworker tell me the other day that she thought I was having a girl because I'm carrying wide. That bothered me a lot, too. I'm pear shaped as it is and self conscious about it, and the last thing I want to hear is that I'm getting wider.
Wow, these people are so unbelievable. My mother's husband pulled that type of thing on me when I was only 5 weeks. My clothes were tight when I saw him so I probably had a muffin top at the time and he proceeded to say after we said we were expecting, 'I knew something was up because I was wondering if you have the same stomach problems as your mom' Long story but my mom can look 6 months pregnant due to bloating and they don't know why.
Do your best not to let them bother you. I assume these people just aren't around pregnant people and they just really don't know how to react. I don't think they mean it.
I had something opposite last week. A male co worker came up to me at work and said "Look at you...I just love looking at a pregnant woman, so beautiful"
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First BPP 1.24.14
EDD 9.26.14
Baby Cooper John born on 9.24.14 6lbs9oz
Dude is a jerk, but I do have to comment because I almost hit the 'love it' button on your post which was venting but it was immediately after your DH told you that you looked beautiful and it made me smile. I got the positive out of your story.
Baby Girl born September 23, 2014