So, I could post this on the newbie thread, but I have a feeling people are going to have a lot of opinions, so sorry in advance if this is SS of me to post.
So anyway, I'm planning on breast feeding. I really really want this to work. When making love with the DH, before pregnancy, I especially loved him interacting with my boobs. It was my go to turn on. Lately I've been feeling like I don't want him to touch them at all because I'm so afraid I won't be able to make the mental switch to feeding. In fact I think a lot of what I believe it was
@joules235 said months ago that you cook with your hands and have sexual interaction with your hands, but no one flinches at that. So I've tried to focus on that and it has helped, but I still can't seem to compartmentalize. So I do still plan on breast feeding but don't know how to do that without making my boobs completely off limits to DH and make my sex life suffer in the process. My mom never breast fed with me and told me how it disgusted her "men pulling and sucking on your nipples and then now you're suppose to let your baby do that. I'm just not comfortable with that." and I feel like that knowledge as a teen really ruined my views on breast feeding subconsciously when I logically know those breasts are primarily for baby and is completely natural. Being an adult now, I want that bond so badly with my baby, I'm going to make it work for baby no matter what, but the question is how do I not let it ruin my sex life and intimacy with DH. Anyone else go through this, is going through this, or have advice? I feel guilty that I'm even having this problem and stupid posting this but I really want some support and advice.
Re: Boobs for feeding and boobs for sex. How to compartmentalize?
Also, with all the body changes you go through during delivery you very likely might have to make some changes to your sex routine for a while anyways, just like you have to during pregnancy (trying new positions, I know a lot of people feel more comfortable postpartum using some lube, etc) so this might be a good idea to try out some other foreplay ideas to see if something else turns you on the same (or maybe even more).
Wish I had more ideas, hopefully others can give better feedback. Good luck.
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So maybe that will happen for you? You may not like it while you're breastfeeding but once you stop things will go back to the way they were.
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