My boyfriend and I found out that we were miscarrying three days ago and Its been extremely hard to go through the physical and mental pain.
My boyfriends way of dealing with it is to go to the neighbors to play video games for hours or invite his buddy over to drink while I lay here in pain.
My doctors wont call me back about anything as far as a doctor appointment confirmation or even to let me know what to expect since no one told me anything about what is going to happen when I passed it, it being my first pregnancy and first lost. By the time they even tried to see me about my pregnancy I had already lost it but didn't know till I would have been 11 weeks.
Our house was broken into the day that we went into the ER to find out why I was bleeding and our room mate blamed it on us. She decided to bring her family over and expect us to entertain them fresh from the ER.
I've had to simultaneously pass my miscarried baby as well as oversee door locks being changed and a roomate being rude to me and my Bboyfriend all in the same day. My boyfriend has been gone a lot and told me being at home laying in bed with me is depressing.
The whole pregnancy experience has been upsetting and painful. I have been so upset and overwhelmed I don't even know how to say anything.
Re: No Room To Cope.
ALL of this! Plus, he doesnt need to "lay in bed with you" - he just needs to be there for you! True, we all deal differently but never at the expence of causing further pain to your partner or ignoring the pain of your partner! Also get a new doc, yours sounds like an a**hole.
Isn't it horrible that after going through a loss you never get to have that amazing pregnancy feeling again? I remember when I got pregnant again, after miscarrying, I never got to be excited, I was just always worried.
I was so afraid to try again because everything pregnancy related had left such a bad taste in my mouth because I had such a horrible experience. But, here I am, years later with a one year old and I still remember but it isn't as painful.
You WILL get through this, there is light at the end of the tunnel and even though it seems hopeless, sad and just overall yucky now, and you may be worried the next time, it will be ok. You will have a happy, healthy baby one day, it will happen for you.
If you'd like to read about my experience (it always helped me to read about what others were going through), I wrote about it here: https://www.alittleblueberry.com/p/pregnancy.html
xoxo
Allison