Im a FTM and We had DD last week. She's perfect and beautiful and healthy, but I'm not doing so great. DH was able to spend sat nite at home with us but has been back to work on the 3rd shift since then. He can't take any time off for financial reasons and since he's been on 3rd, he sleeps most of the day and I haven't gotten a chance to really talk to him. I've cried at least once a day, including now, worrying about DD, worrying that DH and I relationship will dip with baby here now, etc.. I'm struggling with DD latching on to bf and don't feel like a great mother cause I have to pump milk into a bottle to get her my milk. I'm just struggling now. Does anyone else know what I mean? Please tell me it's going to get better. I know it probably will, I just hate feeling like this. Thanks and sorry for the long vent.
Re: Just needed a vent
Things are different for DH and I too. He is a surgical resident so he is almost never home. He sees dd awake for all of 30 min if he's lucky. Sometimes less. I know how hard it can be when you feel like you're all alone. Do not beat yourself up over the bottles. All that matters is she's healthy and you are doing the best you can.
Don't worry about your relationship with DH. It will definitely be different but it didn't have to be a bad change. I try to focus on how he makes my heart melt when he it's interacting with her.
It will get better. My pediatricians favorite phrase is "at this stage, your goal is to take one day at a time". That is all we can do.
And my husband also had to go right back to work the day after we got home from the hospital. I've cried too but we can so this!
Smart doctor. Excellent advice.
Hang in there, PP. I know it'll get better. Like others have said, try and talk to someone you trust about how you feel. And remember, how you're feeling is normal. Best wishes!