Hey all you lovely ladies,
Just wondering how it works after you give birth...do you breast feed right away, or does it take a few hours for your milk to come in?
Also, I'm not sure how my hospital does things, but I'm going to ask the baby be placed on me, skin to skin for a while....how do I go about requesting they help me do this?
Thanks!
Re: Breast Feeding after birth
I birthed in a hospital with a mw. She passed baby straight to my chest. Then after a short time, started arranging LO onto the breast.
I think skin to skin immediately after birth is becoming more and more common. But check what your hospital does.
It wasn't instinctive to me to try and BF LO straight away. I was in such a daze after it all, and just so busy looking at her, and taking it all in. So my MW took the lead with the BF thing, but I'm sure if I'd taken the lead she would have stepped back and just done what was needed.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Baby is immediately placed on my chest. We snuggle and wait for the cord to stop pulsing and delivery of the placenta (which has taken way longer than average for me both times). If baby seems interested in BF, I'd go ahead and do it then.
Neither one has.
So after delivering the placenta and cutting the cord, I clean up/take a quick shower while LO is measured and weighed. Then I get all super comfortable in a chair or my bed and settle in for a long cuddle/nursing session.
It's fantastic.
Breast feed within an hour after giving birth. You will feed your baby colostrum until about day 3 when your breasts swell with milk. If your breasts hurt from the swelling take a hot shower and run the water on them or use a hot water bottle and ice packs alternating.
I had a homebirth and as soon as baby had her apgar she was on my chest skin to skin. I birthed the placenta pretty quickly and then began hemorrhaging. I passed our little girl off to my husband so the midwives could stop the bleeding. The bleeding stopped and our baby was trying to find the breast on her father's chest so I took her back and guided my breast to her mouth.
I assume you should mention your desire for skin to skin with your OB or midwife. They will discuss with you how you can make that happen at your birth.
Good luck.
Baby was placed on me and we had skin to skin for a little bit. My friend who is also a doula was with us and once I was cleaned (and stitched up from the "skid marks") she said, let's breastfeed! I want to say it was about an hour. I hadn't even got up. Basically it was pretty immediate. I was like okay....kind of nervous, but DS latched on right away and we didn't have any problems!
Oh, and DS was born on a Sunday morning and my milk didn't come in till Wednesday evening. Took awhile but it did. Just keep nursing around the clock.
Skin to skin has been standard practice at all five hospitals I've looked at. I'd still ask your caregiver to be certain and put it on your birth plan but it's probably going to happen, which is the good news because even 5 years ago that wasn't the case in most places!
As for breastfeeding, I'm not BTDT, but I have attended several births and at about half of them the baby made it's own way to the breast and just started feeding. One I swear clawed up her Mom's chest (she'd been down by the belly) to latch on. So try not to stress it too much, babies a lot of times know what they are doing and if they don't most hospitals employ lactation consultants and you can request a little help from them.
B born 7/15/13, C born 3/2/15, #3 on the way May '17
I’m a modern man, a man for the millennium. Digital and smoke free. A diversified multi-cultural, post-modern deconstruction that is anatomically and ecologically incorrect. I’ve been up linked and downloaded, I’ve been inputted and outsourced, I know the upside of downsizing, I know the downside of upgrading. I’m a high-tech low-life. A cutting edge, state-of-the-art bi-coastal multi-tasker and I can give you a gigabyte in a nanosecond! I’m new wave, but I’m old school and my inner child is outward bound. I’m a hot-wired, heat seeking, warm-hearted cool customer, voice activated and bio-degradable. I interface with my database, my database is in cyberspace, so I’m interactive, I’m hyperactive and from time to time I’m radioactive.
Like the PP's said, I'd make sure to discuss it with your provider near the end of your pregnancy. If you have a birthplan, that's a good place for the info too.
As far as BFing goes, DS rooted around almost immediately and, luckily, latched on right away. I didn't get engorged when my milk came in (also lucky.) I could just tell that he was actually drinking/swallowing more than suckling after a few days.
Thanks ladies! All your answers are really helpful.
I've spoken briefly to my OB about a natural birth. She replied saying she likes to be as natural as possible too, but its always hard to tell.
I'm 30 weeks and thinking it may be good to, like most of you said, write out a birth plan, and talk it over with my OB at around 37 weeks or so.
The bummer is that she is transitioning out of our ONLY hospital here in Fairbanks, AK around my due date...so she could, or could possibly not be there.
Any advice on all the different tests/antibiotics they give to a baby right after birth? I'm not really sure what all they do.
Ditto all of this (except I had my baby at a hospital). My son wanted to nurse right away, and I was ready to start as well, but I had an almost 4th degree tear, and they wanted to stitch me up first so I (guess?) wouldn't bleed too much...or at least that's what I'm thinking.
There's a podcast called "Pregtastic" that had two great episodes (the last two episodes, actually) about common hospital procedures and what they do. It's a great little resource for finding out what all happens when you get to the hospital. The guest is an OB that works both in hospitals and a birth center so he's seen both sides.
B born 7/15/13, C born 3/2/15, #3 on the way May '17
I’m a modern man, a man for the millennium. Digital and smoke free. A diversified multi-cultural, post-modern deconstruction that is anatomically and ecologically incorrect. I’ve been up linked and downloaded, I’ve been inputted and outsourced, I know the upside of downsizing, I know the downside of upgrading. I’m a high-tech low-life. A cutting edge, state-of-the-art bi-coastal multi-tasker and I can give you a gigabyte in a nanosecond! I’m new wave, but I’m old school and my inner child is outward bound. I’m a hot-wired, heat seeking, warm-hearted cool customer, voice activated and bio-degradable. I interface with my database, my database is in cyberspace, so I’m interactive, I’m hyperactive and from time to time I’m radioactive.
Make sure you make it clear to your providers that you want skin to skin right away. My hospital does this standard but some don't. You can also request that weighing, shots, eye goop, etc. be held off for at least an hour. (Remember: It's YOUR baby, you call the shots!)
Baby will try to find the breast on her own within the first hour of being placed on you -- Look up "breast crawl" on YouTube.
Hopefully you will have access to a lactation consultant, or a nurse can help you initiate breastfeeding after awhile. You may want to research "laid-back nursing", which can be easier than traditional cradle positioning.
The first day, Baby's stomach is the size of a tiny marble. Colostrum is the first milk you make. It's golden in color and you only need that TINY amount at a time. The more you nurse (not just feeding, but allowing Baby to suckle even when not actively drinking), the more you signal to your body to make milk. Your 'real' milk will come in within a few days, but that early colostrum is almost always plenty until then so long as you are nursing on demand. Your baby will seem to breastfeed almost constantly - That's a good thing, as it is literally informing your body how much milk to produce.
Even at a week old, Baby's stomach is too small to hold more than a couple of ounces per feeding. Keep track of wet and poopy diapers - Enough coming out means enough going in!
Mama to Sebastian, born 9/2010
Thanks ladies, this is all very helpful.
I'm wondering...how often do you nurse in the beginning?
I've heard that you should nurse a newborn every two hours....but it almost seems like that's not the case if I'm only giving her a little bit of colostrum each time....
Shed some light?
That's actually correct. The more you do it, the quicker your milk comes in. By the 3rd nursing session, the nurse was pointing out when my baby was swallowing. I don't know if it was the 1st or second day but at some point in the hospital, my baby spit up a tiny bit. I was so excited to know for sure that he was swallowing something! It's supply and demand with bfing. My milk officially came in 3.5 days after my baby was born.
In the hospital you can call a nurse each time you want to nurse and you should! It's free help. Some are better than others but in the end, they all know how to teach you. Then of course see the lactation consultant.
If you end up with some hiccup in the beginning, don't stress it. Because of my baby and the mucous, and then a slew of guests, I didn't bf until maybe 5-6 hrs later. It wasn't ideal but in the end it all worked out. Breastfeeding was amazing. Do lots of reading about it now because trust me, you won't have any time for it once your lo is here!
I would highly recommend a birth plan (and give it to the nurses with a batch of cookies if you are delivering in a hospital.
Just keep it short - anything longer than a page, people are going to ignore it or forget what you wrote. Keep it to the 5-10 things most important to you (e.g., Please do not offer pain medication / wishes regarding clamping the cord or donating cord blood / delay routine care to facilitate skin to skin contact for the first hour after birth / etc).
Ask to see the hospital's LC right away. They can walk you through a lot of the early logistics of breastfeeding. Frequent is good - it will stimulate milk production. Also, continue doing skin to skin contact after that first hour - I held DS on my chest basically the entire time I was in the hospital, unless I was sleeping.
BFP #1: 10-25-11, MC: 11-1-11 @ 5w5d
BFP#2: 12-29-11, DS born September 2012
TFAS: July 2014, BFP#3: 12-29-14, EDD 9-9-15
Hopefully your hospital is one that supports it - more and more are seeing the benefit. But even if not, your wishes should be granted if baby doesn't need special medical attention after the birth. And in doing so, you keep the baby as long as you want.
Most likely, if baby ends up being interested in nursing, which many are, especially in an unmedicated birth, you will get baby latched. Accept help if it's offered if baby doesn't get on right away. Baby will probably suckle and nurse for 45 min or so, and then fall asleep for a while. If you nurse frequently, you can expect your milk to come in within 1-3 days, on average. Sometimes it's longer, but baby's tummy is so tiny, the colostrum they're getting is just enough for them, especially because they should be nursing frequently (more frequent than every three hours around the clock).
I recommend reading a nursing book if you haven't gotten one yet. My favorite has been The Nursing Mother's Companion.
For me, first birth was very hard on baby (and my vagina) and she was taken to the NICU almost immediately.
Second birth, baby was ok, but I didn't want to have her immediately. I wanted her checked out very well before I got her. I enjoyed about 30 minutes to an hour of showing her off to dd1, and my parents. Then they all three left and I started nursing.
As far as what you want to happen. Tell your ob, then tell your main delivery nurse. She'll make sure it happens, as long as there are no complications.