PPD/PPA Mom...it has been super hard, but I'm making it! Slow steps...
Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).
Proud VBAC, natural birth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering momma!
I know that no one can prepare you for the birth of a baby...you just have to find that out for yourself! Anyway...my DS will be 3 in August and we plan on TTC next year (around April), so he would be 4...possibly 5 when baby comes. Just depends on if we have any problems or not.
Anyway...I am freaking out a little bit already. Help calm my mind about having two children. Tell me the positives! I am not looking forward to the first few months...once we are about 6 months old...I should be golden. Just don't know how to handle two. Anybody else with this age gap?
I also had BAD PPD with DS...so that is also why I am a bit scared. I know for a fact I want another child, just scared.
Any helpful words would be great! :-)
Re: Good things about having 2 children? Help me out please...
I can't even put it into words how incredible the interaction is with DD and DS. It is amazing to have 2. To this day I can hear DS's voice coming down the hall in the hospital saying "where is my baby sister!!?". remember going from 0 to 1 child? that was a shock to our system and i was horrified at the thought of another logisically but you end up in a routine and all will be ok. The kids love each other and i am so glad they have each other. I say jump in with both feet and try and go with the flow!! good luck!
Having two is awesome. I love it. They play with each other so well (most of the time!) and help each other learn things. DD2 has absorbed so much from DD1, it's awesome to see her already knowing numbers/letters/writing/counting because she watches her big sister do them and wants to be just like her.
It's such a motivator. DD1 plays soccer, and DD2 is chomping at the bit to get to do it, too. And I know there won't be separation anxiety -- she goes with me every day to drop off DD1 and keeps asking when she gets to go to preschool, too.
The transition was hard, don't get me wrong, but they just get more and more fun as they get older.
DD1, 1/5/2008 ~~~ DD2, 3/17/2010
Thank you all...this does make me feel a bit better. Hope to get even more great, kind words!
That is one thing we have discussed...we do want our child to have a sibling, we both have siblings. My DH is 1 of 5!!! I only have a younger brother. Like you said...I can't even think of more than 2...DH is getting "snipped" after the second. I already know I can't handle more than that. To each their own though...
So it does help that I know I am done after having my second child. Like one poster said, I think I just need to jump in! I know I have until next April to even start trying, but it will be here before I know it! The possible PPD again scares me too...
Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).
Proud VBAC, natural birth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering momma!
Having two is awesome! Mine are closer in age 2 1/4, but it has been so fun! It melts my heart to see the two of them interact. Soon after DS was born DD said to me, "I'm glad Noah's here!" talk about melting my heart! DS loves to watch her, his face just lights up every time she walks in the room and it's so cute to listen to DD talk in this high pitched voice to him.
I think the second time around is just easier, you know what you are doing and you don't have time to over think things which was my problem last time.
Soon after DD was born I called my Aunt and said, "I don't know how I can ever have more, this is just so hard!" She told me that it just gets easier after the first, they entertain each other. My Aunt should know, she had five!
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I was so nervous about having a 2nd child because of all the stories about how hard it is and what not --- it's the best thing ever & my LO is only 4 months old. I never had issues having 2. Everything just kind of fell into place.
The "bad" thing is that it is harder to get out the door to do things, but it's maybe an extra 20 minutes to pull life together to get moving & I know with time and LO getting older that will get easier.
I have no regrets. I have no horror stories to even share if I wanted to. I feel going from one to two wasn't that hard & really would love to throw another one in the mix.
My oldest was almost 3 when my LO was born.
My kids are exactly 3 years apart and it's gone really well. DS1 acted out a bit in the beginning, but nothing out of the ordinary. Now that DS2 is crawling around and is a bit we've been having issues with sharing and the boys taking each other's stuff, but that's what kids do.
Positives are that the already adore each other and that will hopefully continue as infinitum. Also older kids love helping out.
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Thanks for this post. I am terrified to have 2. Mainly because I had horrible morning sickness for 7.5 months, DD was colicky and DH deploys all the time.
That being said, I know the hard part would be only temporary. I would love for DD to have a sibling. I love her more than life itself and know I would feel the same with the next one.
It's still a hard decision though.
My kids are like 20 months apart. It's not as bad as people think! You really do get used to it. And with an older child at 4 or 5 it'll be even easier. There is nothing in the world like seeing your children lovingly interact. No one can make my baby girl smile like her big brother!
So worth it!
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Thank you all so much for your kind words...they really have helped. I guess my biggest fear now is the return of PPD.
Thanks again!
Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).
Proud VBAC, natural birth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering momma!