Working.
rjeller32
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I had to go back to work, because the world isn't a fairytale and I can't stay at home with my girls. My LO's are 2 and 1 month old, and I have been badgered completely by most everyone around me saying I am abandoning my duties as a mother. I am still breastfeeding, and have a steady 9-5 M-F career, and I still spend as much time with them as I can, but I am starting to feel guilty because of all of the people around me telling me I am wrong for doing so.
It's just frustrating, and causing this huge depression for me. I wish I could be that perfect SAHM, but I can't, and I would really like people to stop reminding me that I am not, or think I am just choosing to not be there all the time for my girls for my own selfish reasons.
There. I am done ranting.
Re: Working.
I chose to stay home with my first and I'm choosing to work with my second. Both choices have their merits, and either way I don't doubt my job as a mom. When I do what is right for me, then I'm doing what's right for my family and my boys.
I'm floored, and very sorry, people have judged you for working. Being a mother is hard enough without ridiculous judgements from others.
Yeah, it all came from my family and close friends, my mother probably the worst of them all. The only people that have supported my choice have been my friends that don't have kids. I don't see how working and having a career is selfish. I am really thankful to finally hear some positive input, really, thanks all of you!
I keep hearing "get on financial assistance if you're having a hard time paying bills being a SAHM." Um no. I was just surprised that in an era of working moms, so many people were negative about it!