but I need some reassurance right now. DD does not STTN. She used to. She can. But she started getting up once a night (sometimes more - UGH) I don't even know how long ago now, and has been doing it every night ever since. It's frustrating and of course I hate it, but I'm not ready to do any kind of CIO and so I'm kind of just hoping she grows out of it. Well, lately I feel like everyone has something to say about it - everyone thinks she should be STTN and they basically are making me feel like there's something wrong with me and her that she isn't. Everyone else that I talk to (in person) with LOs around her age (give or take a few months) says there kids STTN and look shocked that DD doesn't. So, please, any of you who are still dealing with this, please let me know so I don't feel so alone and like I'm doing something wrong. TIA.
Re: I know I'm not the only one...
Pipsqueak born 6/9/14
My DS was the same as your kiddo at 9 months. He USED to STTN, but as soon as he hit 9 mos for some reason he began waking up once a night. Every night. Sometimes more than once. But, take comfort that now that he's close to 10 mos, he's back to sleeping through the night most nights. I've heard that this can be a rough patch for previous STTN-ers because so much is going on and they are learning so much during the day that they don't want to sleep.
You're not doing anything wrong. It's just how their sleep goes. :-)
Caleb Jonathan
Born November 30, 2011
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Just start lying...maybe it will come true :-) Tell people she sleeps, don't complain about her not sleeping, and then you won't be made to feel bad by the comments :-)
but really, she will sleep eventually...or you'll figure out a way to help her learn that works for you and your family.
of course you aren't alone. just smile and nod at those people, you have to realize every child is different.
I have a good friend, her son is two weeks younger than mine. Her son has always slept very well, from a young age. It's been tough being friends when mine is a crappy sleeper, she always looks good, gets to work out, yadda yadda.
My son has STTN for a week of his life or so, around month five. Never since. He is BF and I think wakes for comfort nursing. I don't think he is hungry (gets plenty of breastmilk and solids during the day) but who knows.
We refuse to CIO but it's HARD. It's been wearing on my husband and I and I am not sure what to do next.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
Most of the people I know with babies don't STTN, at least not consistently. My did start STTN about every other night when she was 8 months, but we just did a big international trip so you can bet that's not holding for the time being. I hope she'll go back to it in a couple weeks.
My point is just that it comes & goes - everything's a phase and will pass, as my fellow mama (of 3) likes to say.
There could be several causes.
Is your LO thirsty? I keep a sippy cup with water nearby so my LO can drink something at night. My guy will drink a little a drift right off to sleep. It usually happens during the heat.
Also you might get up and feed your LO. My guy will also wakes up to eat. Sometimes he just isn't interested in eating during the evening time. He wants to be held by Dad.
Check your nap time. Some LO can get confused between night and day schedules. My little guy tends to get awakened by his big sister and it throws off his schedule. Then I pay that night for his off sleep.
Also there are some kids that do not need sleep like others. My aunt has always gotten by on very little sleep. even as a child she only needed a couple of hours. My father still tells stories of her riding her bike through their bedrooms at night because she was up and ready to go! She only needed about four hours.