I received a mass email invite to a baby shower, being thrown by the mother herself. There were 48 people on the invitation email. She broke the 48 into three groups and asked that Group A bring decor/centerpieces, Group B bring appetizers/dessert, and Group C bring drinks. She also included her address and said that if people can't make it to the shower, they can just send gifts directly to her.
I looked at the registry items and most are between $150-$500. She is unemployed and there is no dad in the picture, so I know finances must be tight. But seriously?
I'm really considering just sending diapers and wipes, or a teddy bear for the kid.
Re: Ugh. Seriously? And what would you buy?
Sounds like a charity event more than a shower!
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Yeah, it is.
Baby Boy born sleeping at 20 weeks.
I would decline the invite and not send anything. The whole thing is tacky!!!!
-She's throwing her own shower-Tacky
-She mass emailed people as an invite-Tacky(I''m not against tasteful e-vites but not for just a regular old email saying "come to my party" sent to every tom *** and harry in the address book)
-She told GUESTS to bring stuff to her party.....I have NEVER attened a shower where I was expected to bring the food and decorations.-Tacky
-Her regestry screams GIFT GRABBY! My regestry has items raging from $2-$300 because I know money can be tight and I would rather someone buy a binki if that's all they can afford and get themselves to the party rather than not come because they can't afford a gift.
She needs to realize it's HER responsibility to provide for this child NOT everyone elses.
What would I buy? Not a damn thing.
If there was no graceful way of getting out of it, I'd send a card with a $20 gift card. The whole event screams gift grabby-clearly she doesn't care at all about the people attending, just what they'll bring to the shower (Including the shower itself!)
I'd do the same. Decline, and then when the baby is born bring an outfit and diapers.
Eta: oops, supposed to be a quote in there. I'd reply back via email saying I couldn't go, not sending anything. Then small gift when baby is born.
If it were a very close friend, I'd tell her what an azz she was being.
This. I also wouldn't send a gift.
All of this.
Tritto.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
This! If enough people deny her, maaaaybe she would get the point? Nah, probably not, but at least I wouldn't feel like a sucker!
This, because we all know how annoying it is to get tons of clothes instead of things we need and she doesn't deserve to get diapers/wipes, because of how tacky she is! How strange.
Wait---I think you're trying to be funny.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
THIS!!!!!
Yes, that is horrible. I hope she is just really really clueless, and not a greedy tw*t like it seems.
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I totally agree!! some nerve of people!!
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First off, sending a mass email invite is just tacky, especially to something as personal and intimate as a baby shower should be. If she couldn't take the time to do an invitation and address an envelope to let me know that my attendance would be very much appreciated and wanted (aside from getting a gift) then I wouldn't take my time worrying so and deciding whether to go, let alone a gift.
Secondly, if her family or close friends don't think much of her to throw the shower for her, and if she isn't willing to simply buy a cake, plates, punch or coffee and cups, to show her appreciation for the guests she has invited, then she must not be a very well thought of person and quite ignorant of etiquette. I'm not speaking of baby shower etiquette, I'm speaking polite and common sense etiquette. She is literally requiring any 'guest' who attends to throw the shower for her.
If she is lucky, a few people will show up to that shower. I for one wouldn't be there. I don't pity this woman; obviously there is a reason there is no dad in the picture. Greedy and Selfish and Rude are three words that come to mind about this 'friend'.
Don't get me wrong - I totally agree. She isn't a friend. Unfortunately, and this is embarrassing, she is family.
Baby Boy born sleeping at 20 weeks.