March 2012 Moms
kmhunt11
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Why am I oversensitive about name suggestions?
kmhunt11
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It irritated me to no end when I was pregnant with DD that everyone wanted to rattle off a list of names for me to "yea" or "nay". Then when I'd share our short list, they'd tell us which they didn't like. We ended up naming DD what most people didn't like and it was very uncomfortable. This time, the discussion is between DH and I. We don't even talk about it around DD. DD nicknamed LO Baby Roar (no clue why) and it's stuck. Every time I call her that, people pipe in with "You can't call a child Roar!" or "How about __________?" or "I looked up meanings for ___________." I'm not an idiot. I'm not going to name my kid Roar. And I didn't ask for opinions. We've made it perfect clear we don't name our babies until we meet them, and believe it is just DH and my decision. It just infuriates me, and I'm sure I'm being unreasonable. I don't snap at anyone (except my mom!) about it, and I guess I'm just venting to you.
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Re: Why am I oversensitive about name suggestions?
We nicknamed our LO "Tomato". People actually asked if that was the baby name we were going with. I kind of did the head tilt at that - of course not.
I think the sensitivity may come from a combination of defensiveness ("do you seriously think I am stupid enough to do that??") and frustration because it's your kid and your final word!
I feel the same way! We got lots of name suggestions over Christmas and I tried to just say 'that sounds nice, we'll put it on the list' and change the subject, but it was driving me nuts. I am almost LESS likely to pick a name if someone keeps pushing it on me. There's one name in particular that my sister is obsessed with and I actually do like it, but she keeps bringing it up and it's getting on my nerves, I almost don't want to pick it and then hear her gloat for years about how she picked the name. I also get frustrated when people randomly bash names that we haven't brought up. What am I supposed to say if we're actually thinking about using that name? Grr. I think it's pregnancy hormones making me irritated with everything.
For the record, I think Roar would be an adorable name, maybe a nickname for Rory
You're not oversensitive - people just need to get off the topic already and take a hint! It's not up for debate!
Or, perhaps I am also oversensitive.
It is just so annoying though - and I'm sure we all got a lot of suggestions over the holidays while seeing family.
DX PCOS in 2000 TTC since April 2010 DX Hypothyroidism 6/2010 Referred to RE 9/2010.
BFP in June 2011, DD born in 2012
Joined the baby train again 8/2013. First month, out due to re-diganosis of Hashimotos.
Sept 2013, 2.5 letrozole and trigger, low progestrone and using supplements = BFN.
Oct 2013 2.5 Letrozole, trigger, and IUI = low progestrone (8.9, using supplements) and BFP 11/6 Beta 26.9, Beta 2 @ 30, Beta 3 @ 25.3, Beta 4 @ 25.2 CP 5w1d
Nov 2013: ? waiting on AF