My husband and I are at our wits end. Our daughter is 11 months old and still wakes up minimum of 4 times a night. Sometimes as many as 10 times a night. We tries all types of sllp methods including CIO. We were consistent. The way we did CIO was to set a timer for 5 min, go in but don't pick her up. We reasherd her we were right there but it was time to sleep. Repeated after 10 min, then 15. we did this for 3 weeks with no results. We went back to rocking her to sleep, but 1/2 the time as soon as she fell asleep and we layed her back down she would wake up and start crying again. I even tries the gentle CIO where I stayed in the room with her till she fell asleep. Left her in the crib, and me in the rocking chair. Did that for 3 weeks as well with no results. She has had a consistant bedtime routine since she was 4 months old. Bath, book, bed. Her bedtime is 7pm. She takes 2 naps a day. One from 11-12 and another from 3-4. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks
Ok I'm sorry this isn't much... My 11 month old still wakes in the night for a bottle and for the last week hasn't been able to sleep alone...she's teething. But I think you need to cut out a nap! That will help alittle. It's fine if she sleeps longer during the 1 nap but see how it works. Babies get more rest in the first 10 mins of sleep...so she really is getting rested at night! Not that that helps you! I'd also talk to the pedi about it at your 12 month check up!
The way I understand it, when you do progressive waiting (like you did), you also increase the intervals each night. Otherwise, LO will be expecting you after 5 minutes every time. So like 3, 5, 8 the first night; 5, 10, 12 the second; 10, 12, 15 the third; and so on. That way, maybe they cry for 5 minutes on night 2 and you go in, but on night 3 when you don't show up right away, there are better odds that they'll put themselves to sleep before the 10 minute mark...
It's normal for babies to not sleep through the night at this age and there's only so much you can do. The article lists a bunch of suggestions for things to try to facilitate sleep... beyond that, it's up to your baby's personality and development to determine how things will go from there. Babies go through phases where they will sleep great and then not so much because of changes they're going through (maybe teething, separation anxiety, tummy troubles because of something they ate, ear infections, too hot/too cold, etc.).
Do whatever works for you and remember that whatever works one day, might not work the next day.
Right now, our DS sleeps best either in bed with us, in his swing or in his infant carseat because he constantly wants to sit up/pull up in his crib and won't lie down long enough to relax.
You can't expect your baby's sleep habits to stay the same when they are changing constantly... that's why I'm not a fan of sleep training in general. Until your child is at an age where you can explain why they need to go to sleep and that you're just in the next room (or whatever their issue is), then the crying is communicating a need to you... whether that be "I need cuddles/My teeth hurt/I'm hungry/I'm wet/I'm too hot/My sleeper is itching me/I'm over-tired"... etc.
I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living my baby you'll be.
- Robert Munsch
we did ferber and with ferber you increase the amount of time first night we did 5, 7, 10 minutes then 2nd night 7, 10, 12 minutes. now she doesn't usually cry that much when I put her down but if she does I wait 15 minutes and she usually puts herself to sleep within that 15 minutes but now it is normally less that 5 that she falls asleep on her own.
It's normal for babies to not sleep through the night at this age and there's only so much you can do. The article lists a bunch of suggestions for things to try to facilitate sleep... beyond that, it's up to your baby's personality and development to determine how things will go from there. Babies go through phases where they will sleep great and then not so much because of changes they're going through (maybe teething, separation anxiety, tummy troubles because of something they ate, ear infections, too hot/too cold, etc.).
Do whatever works for you and remember that whatever works one day, might not work the next day.
Right now, our DS sleeps best either in bed with us, in his swing or in his infant carseat because he constantly wants to sit up/pull up in his crib and won't lie down long enough to relax.
You can't expect your baby's sleep habits to stay the same when they are changing constantly... that's why I'm not a fan of sleep training in general. Until your child is at an age where you can explain why they need to go to sleep and that you're just in the next room (or whatever their issue is), then the crying is communicating a need to you... whether that be "I need cuddles/My teeth hurt/I'm hungry/I'm wet/I'm too hot/My sleeper is itching me/I'm over-tired"... etc.
I get what you're saying, but 4+ times a night for 11 months is BRUTAL on both parents and child and honestly, sounds like a great recipe for resentment and exhaustion for everyone.
OP- I've read every sleep training book under the sun from Ferber to Weissbluth to Sears to the Baby Whisperer, and more. Honestly, the only thing that seems to help my LO are time (as in, things are slowly getting better) with some progressive waiting, a la Ferber, and some CIO. My LO was down to one night waking and then started waking up more and more so I decided to feed her only if it was after midnight and before 4am. If she woke before that, I let her CIO. Within a day or two her first waking moved back to 1:30/2 and she would eat, fall back asleep and sleep until around 5 or 6 which was a major improvement.
However, that was AFTER she had learned to fall asleep in her crib, and not being rocked, etc.
Ferber and the No Cry Sleep Solution taught me a lot about sleep associations which helped, too.
Thank you everyone for your suggestions and support. I am going to try doing the CIO the way KatieB19 and beckalecka said to do it and see what happens. Crossing my fingers
Re: 11 Month old still wont sleep through the night.
Here's a good article for you to read: https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/31-ways-get-your-baby-sleep-and-stay-asleep
It's normal for babies to not sleep through the night at this age and there's only so much you can do. The article lists a bunch of suggestions for things to try to facilitate sleep... beyond that, it's up to your baby's personality and development to determine how things will go from there. Babies go through phases where they will sleep great and then not so much because of changes they're going through (maybe teething, separation anxiety, tummy troubles because of something they ate, ear infections, too hot/too cold, etc.).
Do whatever works for you and remember that whatever works one day, might not work the next day.
Right now, our DS sleeps best either in bed with us, in his swing or in his infant carseat because he constantly wants to sit up/pull up in his crib and won't lie down long enough to relax.
You can't expect your baby's sleep habits to stay the same when they are changing constantly... that's why I'm not a fan of sleep training in general. Until your child is at an age where you can explain why they need to go to sleep and that you're just in the next room (or whatever their issue is), then the crying is communicating a need to you... whether that be "I need cuddles/My teeth hurt/I'm hungry/I'm wet/I'm too hot/My sleeper is itching me/I'm over-tired"... etc.
I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living my baby you'll be.
- Robert Munsch
I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living my baby you'll be.
- Robert Munsch
I get what you're saying, but 4+ times a night for 11 months is BRUTAL on both parents and child and honestly, sounds like a great recipe for resentment and exhaustion for everyone.
OP- I've read every sleep training book under the sun from Ferber to Weissbluth to Sears to the Baby Whisperer, and more. Honestly, the only thing that seems to help my LO are time (as in, things are slowly getting better) with some progressive waiting, a la Ferber, and some CIO. My LO was down to one night waking and then started waking up more and more so I decided to feed her only if it was after midnight and before 4am. If she woke before that, I let her CIO. Within a day or two her first waking moved back to 1:30/2 and she would eat, fall back asleep and sleep until around 5 or 6 which was a major improvement.
However, that was AFTER she had learned to fall asleep in her crib, and not being rocked, etc.
Ferber and the No Cry Sleep Solution taught me a lot about sleep associations which helped, too.
I'm sorry. Fragmented sleep is the worst feeling.
Thank you everyone for your suggestions and support. I am going to try doing the CIO the way KatieB19 and beckalecka said to do it and see what happens. Crossing my fingers