Hello everyone,
I to be honest just need to vent i feel very lonely these days. Well ill start out with my soon to be ex husband and i had been trying to get pregnant for over a year actually in March we went to an infertility specialist. In April he was out real late with his friends and I got upset because he didnt get home until 430 am, we got into an argument and he left and told me that night he wanted a divorce and too be honest i didnt think he had the guts to do it. Well the next day he came home and told me that he was serious. It was so hard because we had been together for over 4 years and we have known each other for almost 10! So i thought that we would be together forever. Our lives were literally inner twinned in every sense, What was worse is the friends house he was at until 430 am he started living there and then he now lives with his gf! We have only been broken up for 2 months. When he left i asked him what if i am pregnant and he said if you havent gotten pregnant this far youre not pregnant now. Well my body obviously knew and the end of that week i took the test and it said i was pregnant, both test actually said it. So i called him and told him and he said that the test arent always right! So i went to my doc the next day and she confirmed it, so i called him and he asked me if i got papers! Im not a dog! I was so offended... Sorry about rambling i just really have noone to turn to. My biggest issue is i dont have many friends because my ex was my everything. When i get upset about something i just want someone to hold me and tell me it will be okay, and it makes this whole thing worse. So has anyone been in a situation like mine? Or does anyone have any advice on what to do to make friends or of something to get my mind off of all this stressful financial and emotional mess i have right now?
Thanks for reading my rambling mess.
Court
Re: 12 weeks pregnant and getting a divorce.
I know what you mean. I thought I was settled and set for life being married and a stay at home mom. Now its like I gotta start over with a new plan for me and my kids. My husband was so thrilled about the first pregnancy thyen got kinda bipolar towards the end. Then our son was born and he was so happy and helpful and loving for 2-3 weeks then something changed and he slowly quit helping with anything or even wanting to come home to see our son more than once a week. Then I thought things were getting better, then they got rough again and I told him I was pregnant. He was shocked and thrilled since we didn't think we could have another one. I had two miscarriages before our son and it took a year of trying this time. He went out and told everyone we were expecting. By a couple days later he was distant and weird then I think he started hiding money again. He was hanging out with that criminal. I got fed up and left and thats when he moved in with his gf. Then he told me he was upset I was pregnant because he ruined another life. He never asked a thing about the pregnancy after that then I got the op so he can't talk to us at all. My family gave me some money for bills so I can pay one electyric bill. I still have to come up with another months payment. We got rid of the apartment so at least I don't have that bill. My mom and grandma have been very helpful. If it wasn't for my grandma I could never afford to get divorced. It just seems like this process is taking forever and not many people seem to think it is wrong he is living with his girlfriend and doing all those wrongful things he does. I'm starting to get better at dealing with it tho thank goodness. I still check their facebook pages all the time but its getting easier to say well its not my problem anymore. Besides I'm pretty sure he's gonna get cheated on soon cuz thats the kind of woman she is. She takes his whole check and blows it. It always made him mad that I took the whole check andm paid bills. She also never sticks with one guy for long and he could have an std from her. Yes I have facebook. What is your's? I'll look you up. I don't work because I haven't had a job since before I was married and I have panic attacks when I'm in a high stressful around a lot of people. I was going to look for work but my lawyer advised me not to let my son out of my sight until this is all settled because if he gets a hold of my son he has the legal right to take off with him and we'd have to go to court to get him back if we could find him. Luckily my mom is taking care of our basic needs while I'm pregnant so we are getting by.
Thank you for sharing your story with me it does help hearing everyone's story. I am feeling better as of right now we all know about those hormones!
My email is babysunshine882000@yahoo.com you should be able to find me on fb with my email.
Thanks for all the useful information.
I do have a lawyer my ex said he would sign divorce papers and everything but who knows with him.
Im also going to see a counselor next week, my doctor told a name of a good one and I am very excited to go. I felt like ive needed to go even with my ex around, so its a great step.
I do need to find a hobby because i could drive myself crazy at home. I really want to look into pregnancy yoga a lot of people say it helps a lot even when youre not pregnant. My mom has been there for me a ton! Shes been to every appointment and ultrasound, that does help hugely.
Thank you for your help again! It was very useful!!
I don't understand how men can be so crazy! I thought the pregnant woman was supposed to be the hormonal one. My husband has been pressuring me to get pregnant forever. We've been together for 8 1/2 years, married for 2. At 7 1/2 months, he tells me that he has been unhappy for awhile with our relationship and that he thought having a baby would fill his happiness "void". I was completely blown away and then he tells me that we should give the baby up for adoption because he cannot afford the baby and he says my lifestyle is not conducive to having a baby (I'm work 50-60 hours a week). We don't fight and everyone around us has looked up to us for advice. I thought we were doing great- he was getting so into preparing the baby room and was so excited to tell everyone about the baby. Then, he just blows me away one day by saying that he isn't happy and needs to make himself happy. He's not interested in counseling, not interested in any of the pregnancy classes, and definately not interested in anyone who has a different opinion- he has sought out all his guy friends who tell him that he needs to be happy. He tells me that I haven't done anything wrong and that him and his friends all think I'm "a great person", but he just didn't see any future for us. So we went from a romantic weekend away and within the next week- he says he's been unhappy almost the whole marriage and we need ot get a divorce- he's decided.
Thank you for my rambling. I am having such a difficult time processing this and trying to relax. Its been a very difficult pregnancy in general and the idea of being a single mom was never in the picture.